well sweetie youve come to the right place, welcome to DS:)

I wish I had the secret to making good friends. It's hard.

I don't like where I am now, either. Maybe we could trade? LOL!

(Dog not included in trade.)

I completely understand how you feel! I moved here to Alaska from Texas almost two years ago and have only made 2 real friends since coming here. Both who have sadly divorced and gone back to where their original home was. It's extremely hard to make new friends when moving to a new area.

The best advice I can give you at this point with the information you have given is make as many friends on here as possible and maybe it will help you to make friends where you live now. (Boost your self-esteem.) This is an excellent place to make new friends who can help with whatever road blocks you come across!

When did you make your friends back home? Most of the long term friends I have I made in my teens and early twenties. I think it is easier to make friends when you are younger and have more time and less responsability. It takes time to make friends especially good ones. You may be expecting too much too soon. When we moved I foundit very hard to make the type of friends I had in our home state. You cant start out looking for a best friend (which is what I was doing) you just have to look for someone with a little time and a common interest to share that time with. Then you have to nurture the relationship. Sometimes it still doesnt work out. I spent 2 years here in Iniana cultivating a friendship that went sour in two months due to the persons inability to understand a bout of depression I had. It is hard and it takes time. I would keep in touch with friends back home as much as possible to support you until you find a companion here. If your family loves you as muchas you say I think they would welcome you back after a divorce. I think they may be dissappointed but they will still love you and with time should come to understand your decision. Get in touch if you need me:)

Jennifer

welcome :D

I know you say it is personal, but it is hard to replay without any details. Can you give a bit more of a hint what is going on?

I fully understand how you feel. I moved from my hometown Dryden Ont. To Pickering which is near Toronto just over 5 years ago. I had loads of good friends in my home town. Here... I can't even say one of the people I have met here in my new city are good friends. I have a couple good neighbors, but that is not the same. If you ever need to talk, send me an email. Welcome to DS.

Welcome to DS there are lots of great people here you will makes friends with they also have special group's for people
that are going through or have been through break ups you have found the right place.

Welcome to the States I migrated 17 years ago yesterday

Relationships Evaluate.
Do we continue to get involved in relationships with people who emotionally reject us?

Do we let ourselves be used as a doormat for others in the hope that they will love us and approve of us? Or do we surround ourselves with relationships who encourage us tell us we are worth while, special and remind of us of our beauty, never criticizes us and be there when we need them?

Or do we surround ourselves unconsciously with relationships with people that we feel comfortable and familiar with? When we are troubled and confused, we are attracted to troubled, disturbed, confused personalities.

Relationships are complicated because people are complicated. We each have our own ideas, values and hopes and they cant always be the same as the ones we love.

Whether we accept or turn down a request, agree or disagree with someones point of view, we can still treat the other person with respect and curtsey. I can say, No gently
and lovingly as we can say,Yes

We used to think living meant surviving from Crisis to Crisis we will continues this as adults because it was the only way we knew. When we do not know how to respond to a situation to day why not try responding with kindness and that is what we should receive back.

The company we keep rubs of on us and we on them. We influence each others thoughts and behaviours through a cycle of interactions.

Breaking our attraction to unhealthy relationships begins with our own self-acceptance and self-love. We break the cycle by choosing people that have the same personalities
Like self-acceptance, self-love and confidence remember it rubs of both ways.

We need to avoid those that put us down and treats us with no respect, no love and that attempts to keep us down and detract from our personal healing, and we keep the company of affirming people that will nurture and encourage us to be our best and see we have a true value and who helps us grow and fulfill or potential and dreams.

We find ourselves surrounded by people who love and care for themselves and who mirror our own inner beauty and self worth we are more likely to mirror the same.

I moved from my hometown to marry my hubby 5 years ago. I have no friends here but his. They are nice and all but not like my "old" friends. If you ever need to talk just message me!

welcome to ds hugs donna