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I'm ready to explode, and my sister just can't understand why!
She has no concept about boundaries for one thing. She can't understand why when mine are violated, I get miffed. Last night I discovered she had been feeding her cat in my room, and that cat had peed on my bed. I discovered when changing my sheets, that this must have happened several times while I was away. I found 6 other spots on my expensive mattress.
When I confronted her about it and the cat, she got upset and started making excuses and arguing, and calls me a bitch for being mean to her since I got back. (I also was upset last night, that when I got off work I had been left a bunch of stuff to clean up when I returned home. They left their dishes in the sink, and I was expected to make dinner as soon as I got back.)
Maybe I have been acting like a bitch over things, but it is always like this here, and I'm tired of all the BS being shoved at me. She just can't see why I am upset about being treated this way. She can't see that is her behaviour and actions... or lack of actions that are sending me around the bend.
I know I have to move away from here... I am already looking for an apartment... but how the heck do I go about living without loosing it all together before I can actually move? If anyone has any suggestions I would greatly appreciate hearing them... I really need to talk this out....
She has no concept about boundaries for one thing. She can't understand why when mine are violated, I get miffed. Last night I discovered she had been feeding her cat in my room, and that cat had peed on my bed. I discovered when changing my sheets, that this must have happened several times while I was away. I found 6 other spots on my expensive mattress.
When I confronted her about it and the cat, she got upset and started making excuses and arguing, and calls me a bitch for being mean to her since I got back. (I also was upset last night, that when I got off work I had been left a bunch of stuff to clean up when I returned home. They left their dishes in the sink, and I was expected to make dinner as soon as I got back.)
Maybe I have been acting like a bitch over things, but it is always like this here, and I'm tired of all the BS being shoved at me. She just can't see why I am upset about being treated this way. She can't see that is her behaviour and actions... or lack of actions that are sending me around the bend.
I know I have to move away from here... I am already looking for an apartment... but how the heck do I go about living without loosing it all together before I can actually move? If anyone has any suggestions I would greatly appreciate hearing them... I really need to talk this out....
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I know this is easier said then done but you have to do it for your own sanity.
In fact, I just got once again burned by my brother and I do believe this is the final time. So there is hope. It's just going to take a lot of strength and patience until you can move out.
PM me any time if you need to vent because I do truly understand what you are going through!
I wish it would be easy to not clean up after her... but if I do that, then I suffer as well. The mess drives me loco! And if I don't pick up her junk from the floor, I end up tripping on it, since I am legally blind and have poor periphery vision... I'm at a loss over what to do...
I would have been so mad if her cat had pissed all over my bed. big hugs..
And people around me wonder why I am stressed out!
The sound like a handful. May the god of housework smite them!
Sorry you had to come back to that love x
PS I would be VERY PISSED if it was my stuff being damaged.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you that you can sort something out short term/long term