In all honesty I think people are forgetting to accept the opinions of others when theyre differant from theirs...and because theyre already feeling low everything feels like a personal attack.

I am not pissed of either,some times confused , thanks for the words of encouragement scince I have been here. That is what DS is truely for.

In a way, I am glad that I am not on the sight on the weekends... but I know I miss out on alot of drama and then I just dont know whats going on.. I need to get a pooter hooked up at home..

i agree with you but also all the people on the site are working on different stages of depression and they maybe forget were they once were

so true, Stormy60
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I agree about the miscommunication, but had my own thoughts concerning it. But, I do agree with the time on our hands, that old idle workshop theory.

This group has alot of board discussions, and the general census is to keep disagreements, negative feedback private and away from the boards.

Often I see hurtful, messages about other members on some one's hugs.....then you think, who can I trust. Are they part of the negativity or just on the receiving line.
I don't know, if debates where left out in public, then others can offer insights and hopefully stop the madness before it starts. I am not talking about taking sides, just each person would have to consider others view too. And everyone doing what is best for the group, not just themselves. It is a wonderful feeling to care about something other than yourself......it is a start ot healing.

One thing I have always told my daughter, if they are talking trash about them, you could well be next in line. Otherwords, don't hang with the gossip. If you want to know something........ask.

Most of these arguments have such a simple explanation when you stop and think about it. If everything was out in the open, there is not place for gossip. Ok, I don't mean you personal business. I use the boards to interact with other members, my journal is for my more private thoughts, or some positive humor for my friends. Hugs I give to those on my friend list, or may send on to someone I strongly agree with.

I don't know, I just think the negativity would die of natural causes if exposed to the light of day.

Maybe I am wrong, but most everyone leaves due to some private battle between members and it takes away from the group.

Sometimes it seems people take this place way to seriously. It is cyberspace!! This is not reality. Too many times people are getting wrapped up in little cliques and if you have a diiffering opinion it is like throwing yourself to the wolves.

We all come from different places, different social classes, different levels of depression. We are the same in that we are coming to this place for some comfort and support but other than that we are truly different from one another.

If everyone could be a little more understanding and not so quick to judge, maybe there would be more peace here?

And if everyone could keep perspective on the fact that this is a discussion thread, a place to air ideas and maybe as for a few suggestions. Keep it at that. This is not real life...this is just a tool to help you with your real life.

Just my two cents.

ZA enjoyd your point of view. I found it helpful

Zaza; I thought your reply was especially well thought out and helpful. Thanks

Tnaks for your 2cents--makes sence

jmt68; thanks for your insightful reply. Right on, in my opinion!!

IMO I think people sometimes just have to step back, and think about how what they are going to say, may be interpreted. Also we have to step back and look at the responses from all points of view. This is very difficult to do however, especially in the heat of the moment. We often forget that the people here are suffering from a very painful illness, and may not be thinking rationally. We just have to try to practice patience, understanding, compassion, tolerance, and forgiveness. It's a tall order for a sane person, never mind someone in crisis.

nadareal, I think you hit the nail on the head regarding weekends, and I think weekends are especially bad for those who are either living alone, or not in contact with family etc, leaving weekends as an especially lonely time. Yes I agree that weekends tend to be more tense here, and maybe if we all try to be a little more tolerant for the sake of those who are finding weekends harder to cope with, we might just help, rather than hinder these members affected. Maybe we can make an effort to post more jokes, funny stories and happy threads throughout the weekend. I'm not around much on the weekends, but I'm willing to help in any way I can to make weekends a more pleasurable time here.

You make a good point nad.
I also think that alot of the things talked about on the boards are so personal that some people find it hard to not get hurt and react.

thank you, most of the other groups I belong to just have a board, you post a topic, come back next week and it is still going..........this board moves very fast, and it hard to keep up with what is going on, even when you here, (that may be me, I read and type a little slow) I just hope we get it resolved and everyone comes back.