I just don't understand why he has such a problem with me visiting with my parents while he is gone. He has said many times over the past few years that he does not like spending time with my parents. He is gone so much that a lot of times when they call he is not home. I don't tell them his schedule most of the time. They call when it is convienient for them to get together. There have been times when they have called and he has been home, and he has declined to go. I think they stopped trying to invite us when he is home, and just started calling when it was convenient for them. I don't think there is some big expieresy behind his back. I am not purposfully excluding him, my parents are not purposfully excluding him. He is invited always, they put their feelings aside, and invite him too. He is saying that he "feels" like my Dad is trying to play Daddy to our boys. My Dad would NEVER do that! He says the my Dad never had any boys of his own, and always wanted them so he is trying to be Daddy to our boys. That is simply NOT TRUE! He is mad because I keep telling him that my Dad would never do that. I don't try to understand that is how he feels. I understand that is how he feels, but I don't understand why he feels that way. What am I supposed to do when he says something about my parents that is so wrong? Am I supposed to coddel (sp?) him? I think not. I think I am supposed to say that this person would never do that! He hung up on me. I just don't get it.
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