was it just a bad day or is it completely unbearable?

sounds like time to wear your ipod to work. lol

I've got my laptop, and that seems to be a cause for conversation too.

I am sorry your associates are not acting like healthy adults, and moreover that you have experienced the same thing here.

Please know that we are not all bad. There are some very great people here that are willing to have mutual friendships.

I have a lot of workforce experience...what are your associates doing and why aren't the managers stopping it?

I'm a hairstylist and the manager is too busy being friends with the ones close to her age. She's hardly ever here and when she is all she does is sit around and talk to her "friends".

on the plus side you have a trade. I'm sorry things are going bad for you but if you want to change jobs you have experience and you have a trade behind you right?

Arch has a good point...with that skill you go somewhere else... why stay in a job you hate?

I came to this salon to get away from the BS at the last one but it's worse here. I can't keep running from what's happening what I need is the strength to stand up for myself and for what's right. I'm scared.

Don't be too scared. Yeah it'll freak you out at first but once you get it over with and just stand up for yourself it will get so much easier the next time. Maybe it's a blessing in disguise in a way making you face up to them?

do you rent your own space or work for a corporation?

dying--unfortunately workplaces are filled with people. When people are together it is their nature to talk, gossip, lie...etc. I have found that no matter the job, or workplace I choose the issues are the same and them-some.

Frequenting salons, it amazes me the nature of the conversations, and what people are willing to share. It seems there are no boundaries and people left all their values and etchis at the door.

Of course this does not help you...I once decided I was going to take a sabatical in my mind. Oh I was physically at work, but I stayed pretty much to myself. It was a trade off because I was lonely. But I choose that over all the other BS.

People would ask me what was wrong and I would politely say, "nothing," with a smile.
When people would start gossiping I would remove myself from the area, and/or not engage.

If they asked my opinion of something or someone, my response was either, "I am not sure, or I do not know." Or, one way to stop it is to say the opposite. In others words they may say, "Jessica is such a bitch, don't you agree?" Then I would say, "really, you think so? Hmmm, I just don't see it."

It is hillarious and shuts them up. Keep it up enough and they will get the message. Misery loves company--no matterif it is your peers, or boss. Take an obvious stand with the suggestions I made.

I know we are at work a lot--and taking this stand will be hard, but you mark my words--you watch--someone in the salon will ask you about it, and will join the cause.

Hopes this helps...

a lot of work places are like that. hard to find one that isnt.


I wear my iPod at work a lot.

i thought once I was out of school i'd finally get to interact with adults and leave all that bitching behind, unfortunately it seems to be everywhere. either i seek it out or everones like that. i hate it. i can't say i'm innocent, but i know how it feels to have people say shit about you that ain't true, and it's hard to deal. all i can suggest is that you stick it out. they're probably only being like that because they don't know you.

I've tried keeping to myself. They just turn it around on me and say that I have a nasty attitude. I can't win with these people.

I know what you're going through. I just recently came out of a job where I felt I was constantly being back-stabbed. I felt people would say things before they even tried to get to know me. I know I stood up for myself by quitting, but that was the wrong way to do it. Maybe if you stick it out, they will find someone else to bother or things will change. They usually do.