
Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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I have been going through a difficult time with family, my hubbys work decisions (Very Stressful). It seems like I am withdrawing again and not getting along with anyone. I am having a difficult time managing the house and the kids because of all the pain I am in. I was complaining to a friend and he told me that maybe I should have never had kids. He said it in a mean way. That really hurt. Our friendship is over now. That is too bad. I thought we were good friends. I still wish him well. Anyway now I am really down. I feel like a bad mother; like maybe he was right. I am tired and hurt. I am trying to stay away from the kids for a while. Maybe I am not the best mother in the world, but I take care of them when they are sick, and feed them, and love them. I just bitch sometimes because they are kind of lazy and wont help out much around the house, but if I felt better I could do more too. It is this pain is just so overwhelming and no one understands, and I cant be there for everyone all the time. I feel so low. What can I do to get back on track, and feel better and be a better mother?
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i'm sorry you are going through so much.....don't let his words form you....obviously you love your children very much and care for them....i pray that your mother's heart will be blessed and affirmed...
Find a way to take time for yourself, do something nice for you. When we take care of ourselves, family responsibility becomes easier.
When we constantly give, give, give to the demands of motherhood, being a wife, in addition to perhaps working in the outside world, we soon empty out. Kind of like writing checks on a bank account without putting funds in there to cover them.
Make new friends, best advice a doctor ever gave me. I can pick and choose my friends. And, those without concern for my and my families welfare have to go. Family on the otherhand, you just have to learn to deal with more positively. You just can't pick and choose them.
By the way, when I say "you", I mean it in a collective sense, you is me, you, and everyone.
Go to the doctors, talk to your family, tell people how you feel - if you are under too much pressure, you are allowed to feel the weight of it.... who says you can't feel like crap anyway?
I know you want to be there for your kids, but it sounds to me like you are already running the house whilst feeling down. so why not note to your kids that mummy is ''ill'' at the moment and she needs everyone to pull together?
If you let yourself heal properly, and let yourself be helped, this WILL pass.
I promise you that, because you wanted this enough by posting this.
good luck
As to your friend's comment, he may have meant something other than how the comment felt for you.