Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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deleted_user 10/14/2007

i've had a really difficult day coping with my depression through my journal i asked my partner for help as we have a shared journal to try and help each other or so i thought.anyway she read it and basically has not mentioned a thing i wrote in it,not even asked if i'm ok now.so this has just made me think she doesn't care.
can't help feeling like this why won't she help me.why has she ignored it all.she says she wants me to communicate so she can help but when i do it's like she's not listening.i know you guys on here listen and i'm very grateful for that.

deleted_user 10/14/2007

It may be that she's thinking about what you wrote. Give her a little time.

deleted_user 10/14/2007

i understand what your saying but she hasn't even asked if i'm ok i doubt very much she will even mention it tho

deleted_user 10/14/2007

did you ask her?

hugs, hope you feel better

deleted_user 10/14/2007

If you have a shared journal to try and help each other, you should bring that up. It has to work both ways if it's going to help you both. Open communication is necessary and you may have to remind her of that.

deleted_user 10/14/2007

Don't forget that we all have personal demons to deal with. Your words to her may have struck a nerve and she isn't sure how to respond to them/you. Open communication is detrimental to any LTR. Will she talk to you if you ask her?

deleted_user 10/14/2007

Exactly Cerr.....she may just not know what to say. It's hard, but maybe you should bring it up yourself. Are you sure she read it?

deleted_user 10/14/2007

yes she asked to read it.i did bring up one subject in it to her about someone knocking on our door in the early hours again and scaring me but i never even got an answer as such she just brushed it aside

deleted_user 10/14/2007

Maybe some gentle counseling would help?

deleted_user 10/14/2007

Maybe write a new journal, talking about how hurt/scared you are by her lack of reaction? Maybe it';s less scary for her in print?

Kaitrin 10/14/2007

Oh,I agree with a new Journal entry,reacting to your partner's non-reaction.Then, try showing that to her,or read it to her.See what she does THEN! Good luck hun!

deleted_user 10/14/2007

Hi there. Have you had a chance to talk yet? I hope so and I hope you're feeling a little better x

deleted_user 10/14/2007

yes, update please......hope all is well.

deleted_user 10/14/2007

evenuatly i brought the subject up and she told me she had something worrying her about her health then told me ,i have never felt such a selfish bitch in all my born natural.we had a good talk and thanks all of you for being there for me hugs to you all

deleted_user 10/14/2007

Well thats good news, so glad for you both. Take care of each other.

deleted_user 10/14/2007

I was in a bad way a few years ago. When I was hospitalized my husband told me that he is supposed to be my protector. He said that there was nothing he could do to make me feel better and there was nothing he could do to take the pain away. He felt like no matter what he did and no matter how hard he tried..I wasnt getting any better. He said he felt like a failure. He said that the hardest thing he had to face was that depression is just there. No body, no voice. He said if it did HE WOULD HAVE KICKED ITS ASS.lol Maybe your other half has the same feelings. Maybe taking it all in. Just give it a little bit of time. Keep in mind...depression is a family illness. You may have it but it hurts everyone around you.

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