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I don't know what to do about this

LitScholar
LitScholar
Ok, I need some advice.

To make a long story short, there is this guy, head of security on my college campus, about a month ago, I collapsed in the halls and had to have the medics come. He was the guy who helped me. The following week, everytime he saw me he asked how I was, which seemed normal. Then it started to get weird, he came up to me one day when I was studying in the quad and gave me his card asking if I was interested in joining the "security counsel" which I asked people about and said they hadnt heard of it. And now, every time I see him he needs to be talking to me, last week he gave me a "gift" or sorts, he knows I am a lit major and gave me a really nice gold bookmark. What is the deal? is he just being really nice, or is this creepy? And what should I do to kinda give him the idea that Its making me feel weird. Quick fact, he's like old enough to be my father, I'm 24, and he also wears a wedding band. HELP PLEASE
BeckyK
BeckyK
Is there an advisor you can talk to? A trusted "adult"? This guy seems weird. Don't accept any gifts from him, no matter how small. Tell him that this is making you uncomfortable and that you would appreciate it if he would stop.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Personally, I'd think he was being nice, but I'm a dipstick when it comes to men and their so called "good-intentions". I agree with Becky, tho, definitly talk to a professor or something.
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deleted_user
deleted_user
NOPE..trust your instincts..if someone creeps you out..there's a reason. Talk to someone that matters at school and tell them you want the guy to back off.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Did you know that security guards, according to something I read somewhere, have a higher tendency than most men to stalk and harm women? Kind of makes sense given the power issues.

Yes he is weird. Very weird. Talk to his boss ASAP.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm with Jane. Trust your instincts. And talk to someone at school on the faculty about this.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree trust your instincs..try to be couteous and upfront. Let him know that you cant accept his gifts.Also you may want to say that your major is LIT so you would not be interested in secrurity.. You may want to mention that you noticed hes married and that you have gotten the feeling that he wnts to be more than friends. This makes you uncomfortable and you are not intersted in breaking up a home....be kind, firm stick to the moral issues some people can respect that...let an authority figure you trust(guidence cousellor) know whats going on-he sounds like hes looking to get laid by a hot college girl.
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