i am sorry it was so rough. do you have any help there or is it just you and julia?

Im so sorry you had such a rough day. I hope you have support around you. You are welcome to talk about it on here.

Well, usually this is just me and Julia, sometimes her nanny. No help, nosupport.

Her nanny was asked to bring Julia at home from friend's house but decided not to do it calling me to pick her up.
Julia's friend lives in big house near the lake, his parents are very rich, and frankly yesterday I felt bad, and they looked at me what a bad mom you are if your kid does not listen you.
I felt social inept...
but the other thing, I do not drive car, the women who gave me interview took me home, but constantly was making jokes about my inability to drive.
And yes-- it is hard to go to places by public transportation...

where are you living? if you don't mind me asking.... why are you alone there? do you have family to go to or that can come help you some?

I live in Chicago IL, no secrets. My family is in Russia. My hubby works in other state. and I work full-time, study full time and triyng to raise my daughter. Plus I am depressed.

As help I have a cleanning lady, who comes once a week, and not always reliable nanny..

that doesn't sound easy. is there anyway he can come home more or find something closer? i wish i could make it all easier.

im sorry its tough
LIFES A BITCH!!!!
i know 1st hand!!

yes it can be....and it is worse when you are alone with unreliable ppl around.

I don't know ... this is not always that bad, but yesterday I felt so helplessless, staying in snow with my crying daughter and could not move even one step, since he wanted to stay 9in that home.

and that mom's look-- "what kind of mom you are, that you coming my house, and cannot dress your daughter and live, when I apparently told you to leave".

and then this other women who gave me the ride "only imbecills do not drive, what are you-- ambedexter-- when I did not know where to turn-- left or right"...

and then my hubby's call "Why you not at home yet, what is taking you so long"

I am sooo tired, that today I could organize Julia to child care only near 11 o'clock and was able to leave only near 12.

i don't know why ppl have to be so mean to someone who doesn't know something. you sound like you are newish to the states and it is a lot to deal with....new home...hubby away...school...work... childcare. i would get frustrated too. good luck hun! can you find a more reliable nanny? that might help some.

I am just 5 years in this country and sometimes I do not understand how to be polite or deal with the situation. Even though I still feel my nanny shoul help me and was paid to do so in this situation and she just left.

This mom-- she was polite in her words, but her looks to me were... get out the hell from my house.

From the gossip of my nanny with other women-- who is my friend... I learned that the nanny thinks I am a bad mother (she does not have children, what the hell she knows about parenting), she told her that the other mom was tired (and I, of course was very well rested after the day of work). Anyway...

a cleaning lady and a nanny? WOW! get a chauffeur(SP?)

I know it soumd like hell a lot, but the nanny is only for couple of hours weekly, usually she works with me 1 hour daily. Yesterday-- was exception.

Cleaning lady-- yes, I am working 6 days weekly and do not have neither energy, nor skills to do so.

And yes I do believe if I pay, I have to get the services that I paid for.

that is why i think you should sit the nanny down and remind her that you pay her and she needs to show a little respect for that or it can end. i know it might sound to some like you have a lot....but when you are in a still new place....since Russia to the US will still feel weird after 5 yrs in my opinion... it is hard and some days will seem unberable. good luck hun!