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I know I just hurt my sisters feelings and I am feeling very angry with myself. My sister has a friend who is very close to her since they were children (over 20 years).... Over these years I have found the strength to only see the wonderful aspects of this friend and invite her to everything as she is part of the family... As of lately my sisters girlfiend has been getting on my nerves by picking on my daughter, being nasty to my husband and mocking me in my own home. She over the years has done all this but I guess when I had to endure her during the funurel of my sisters baby... I cracked!!! Now for the problem... My sister asked me if she could invite her friend to christmas eve dinner at my home. Reflexivly I said ofcourse.
Last night I could not sleep, and I was full of anxiety as it occured to me that I DONT want this person at my home during the holiday. So I told my sister the truth and she is hurt, and shocked. Now I want to hurt myself because I NEVER EVER wanted to hurt my sister, I ADORE her. But I feel very depressed, I have had bad thoughts lately and don't think I can handle this friend picking on my daughter and mocking my husband and inlaws in MY OWN HOME!!!!
What should I do now? I feel like this is my home where I should feel most comfortable and my children should be themselves.
I offered to my sister that she does not have to choose between us, I would understand if she did not come now and stood home with her husband and her girlfriend. I told her that I love her and did not want to hurt her.
Last night I could not sleep, and I was full of anxiety as it occured to me that I DONT want this person at my home during the holiday. So I told my sister the truth and she is hurt, and shocked. Now I want to hurt myself because I NEVER EVER wanted to hurt my sister, I ADORE her. But I feel very depressed, I have had bad thoughts lately and don't think I can handle this friend picking on my daughter and mocking my husband and inlaws in MY OWN HOME!!!!
What should I do now? I feel like this is my home where I should feel most comfortable and my children should be themselves.
I offered to my sister that she does not have to choose between us, I would understand if she did not come now and stood home with her husband and her girlfriend. I told her that I love her and did not want to hurt her.
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Maybe since you just told her that you dont want her and probably told her why, maybe you can talk to her and ask she talk to her friend and ask she not do those things.
At least then, your sister can have her friend there that she is close with and you can have a peaceful Holiday.
Don't hurt yourself over this, everything has a solution.
(((Hugs))))
I want to awnser some of you who asked questions.
Testycat- yes my sister is hurt and shocked over this. I tried to tell her in the best way possible. Less then 24 hours after she asked me- we were by ourselves in her home face to face. Also I did not ask her to make a choice, I did not want to put her in that position. I told her that I would have to deal with her decission.
Some of you asked me if my sisters friend jokes around when she is being cruel and annoying....Most of the time she is dead serious and mean.
chitownbear, you are write I "should" have done it the way you suggested...but I am like this... I take it-take it-take it- until POP I cant take it any more, then all reason goes out the window.
You thought about what was going on, you acted, you stood up for your hubby and your kiddo. That's awesome. Doing things perfectly and smoothly is highly overrated, probably impossible.