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I am sorry to bother everyone with my problems, but I am so crying, hurt and angry about what a friend messaged me. I can't go into specifics, but this person said that she found my journal offensive, because I wrote down that I thought that I had a certian disorder. (Which I really do). It was said that I should not write this until I was diagnosed, and that I should remove this comment form my journal. Worse, I was told that I should not be looking for a new disorder to hang my problems on, just because my life wasn't going well. I messaged this person back in defence. This really offended and hurt me. This person has been increasingly harsh to me in their comments. All I've done is try to be their friend. I don't know what to do. I want to leave DS now, beacause I am frightened of what other people might say about my journal.
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LELiza,
Perhaps your friend is anoyed by this becasue she has some of her own unresolved issues. At any rate I believe that writing down your feelings is a positive way to vent and helps each of us keep our sanity and grow. Maybe not talking to this friend for a while might be helpful at this point. Huggs
Gwenlouise
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If this person is not being a friend to you, remove them and lock your journal so only friends can see it. Don't leave - I am sure many will miss you, and you will miss them.
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If she is bothering you. remove her as a friend and set your journal for friends only.
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honey,
your journal is yours and you can write anything you want or feel, do not let anyone discourage you from this, they do not want to be your friend, so just delete their remarks and pay them no mind.we sometimes have a little trouble here, but it really is nothing...delete delete delete, and if it gets too mean and you cannot handle it , report them to doug...or other group moderators.
hugs
joyce
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There is people like that roaming these types of post's, they don't know s*it,they think they do but in reality they don't. i get those kinds of messages every once in awhile, i message back saying if you dont like my post dont read it.The people that do these things have major issues so don't worry,post what you want,what helps you. alot of people in these types of place have no sense of humor. If they get too offensive, hit the report abuse button. take care LEiza.
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I agree with the others, your journal is your feelings. She isn't much of a friend if she isn't supportive of you. You shouldn't leave. This board was created for all of us here! You have just as much right to say how your feel or what you think as anyone else here. This person sounds toxic to me, suggestion?? Way the odds..is the friendship worth saving? If not move on..you don't need her! You got the rest of us!!! HUGS hon!!
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Thanks so much to everyone for their great advice, and for caring. I was just really shccked and hurt, as this person was a friend.
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Your journal is yours, to write whatever you want to write. If you have a suspicion about a problem, writing it here can help you by getting feedback and information before you talk to your Dr. The more pro-active you are about your own health, the better care you will receive. Please do not let 1 mis-informed individual change your opinion. And just keep writing about whatever you want. Lock it if you choose, but do continue writing. It can only help.
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screw other people! they sent mean messages 2 me too. it hurts but i'm realizing that we can't please everyone and this is america, they have the right 2 free speech just like we do. so be it. it's healthy to write down all are feelings. Our true feelings. we shouldn't have 2 hold back on the way we feel. And i agree those new features are so cool so lock her out of your journal! i love that!
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I have removed her as a friend, and am busy deleting/locking her out of every journal entry that I have ever made! That should take a few hours then! LOL! But I must say this... I really did not expect a friend to be so mean to me. Comments from strangers maybe. But not so called friends!
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Don't leave, and write whatever the hell you want. That's what this site is for. As for your "friend" I would say ignore the comment. My mother always stated that "where there's no sense - there's no feeling". You have alot of support here and people to help you.
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Now I feel like I should have ignored the comment. I am now crying because she sent me a really bad message, and i feel that I have let her down. I will really miss her friendship. I wish it had never happened.
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Why did this have to happen? Why didn't I just shut up?
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She hates me now.
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Some people need to justify themselves by acting stupid to others. Others are just mean down to their soul. Others are jealous. Some thrive on attention. There are all kinds of reasons why people act the way they do. Only you can control your own actions - and - you will never be able to control other people and what they do.
I agree with the others, this is your journal, say what you want and talk about how you feel. Many people can't understand what another is going through when sick - and they get upset about it. Someone will always have something to say. Block this person or report her. But go on doing what YOU need to do to get better. All of us are here to listen and help where and when we can. Keep us posted.
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