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Below is my today's journal entry, I clearly do not know how to react and behave if at all with this neighbor. I will very appreciate your opinion. Thank you.
...Then (at 7 o'clock) our Russian neighbor came, I never was that close with her. She asked to watch her child when she goes to buy her Halloween costum, I agreed since I needed to buy Julia costume of monkey too and the local store did not have it. So I watch her kid and she bought a monkey costume for me-- it was nice deal, but...
then she asked me to type stuff for her in the computer, I did, it was three full pages. Her daughter when I did not pay attention became a monster, she and Julia spilled chocald milk on the carpet, rouined my article and one of Julia's toys, she put her costume and jump on my bad, parts of this costum are everywhere... toys were everywhere and then... she and her daughter just left...
I felt offended and frustrated, especially in case she told that her house always clean, so... she came roine mine, cause it not that clean as hers-- literally rude...
...Then (at 7 o'clock) our Russian neighbor came, I never was that close with her. She asked to watch her child when she goes to buy her Halloween costum, I agreed since I needed to buy Julia costume of monkey too and the local store did not have it. So I watch her kid and she bought a monkey costume for me-- it was nice deal, but...
then she asked me to type stuff for her in the computer, I did, it was three full pages. Her daughter when I did not pay attention became a monster, she and Julia spilled chocald milk on the carpet, rouined my article and one of Julia's toys, she put her costume and jump on my bad, parts of this costum are everywhere... toys were everywhere and then... she and her daughter just left...
I felt offended and frustrated, especially in case she told that her house always clean, so... she came roine mine, cause it not that clean as hers-- literally rude...
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1. Keep distance and
2. if she asks for one more playdate or sitting-- I'll tell exactly what Sighin Tampa suggested.
thanks guys.