Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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something is wrong? i dont know that there is anything really wrong with me. i think i posted this before but dont know that i got many answers. i have been in "therapy" for about 8 years. not really sure why i am in therapy. they throw around words like depresseion and bi-polar but no one has said hey, this is it and why. i have no real reason to feel like crap. no major calamities that are not normal "bad things". i keep telling myself to stop being a baby and just snap the f out of it, but that is not working. my friend keeps asking me y i feel the way i do and i have no answer. i dont think that i have a right to ask for help if even i cant figure out what is wrong. any insight or advice would be welcome. thanks
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Well hon, I hate to sound technical but depression and bi-polar are chemical. You dont necessarily have to had anything happen to you for you to feel bad. And no, you cant just snap out of it either doll, so dont beat yourself up. I went through feeling that way for a long time. Ive got a host of issues but I really started to see what they were when I kept a journal. Sometimes it was just nonsense but I did start learning alot about myself that way.
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8 years? That is a long time hun. And I think that is the fault of the therapist. I'm sure you are depressed. You sound like it. And I think you are on meds right? Hopefully you can get on the right balance of meds. To me therapy is to be used as a tool. But often times therapists keep you hanging on cause they are running a business. And sounds like you may have been given alot of physco babel. I have some great books to recommend. I'll send them in a pm. cause these days i may get my head chopped off for saying it out loud (they are tell it like it is kinda books).lol
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thanks yall.
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I can put a finger on mine either so I think it's a chemical imbalance.
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Don't know if this is like you...a friend of many years always dismissed what had happened her life. After all, it was never as bad as what other people have gone through. comparisons never work out well.

Aside from the chemical side of things, what we think about and what we are exposed to is going to have an affect on our over all well-being.

Feeling undeserving is another kettle of fish though. I don't consider myself to have a right, or to not have a right to ask for help. It's irrelevant to me.

Sometimes I ask for help, sometimes I don't.
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Sometime I feel this way and most time I dont ask for help..for me to help others seem to help me...dont know why..and anytime I am feeling myself slip I loop at the dancing spider and I am back again. There is so much positive in your life..use this to counter/defeat the negative
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me too. long-term therapy, finally, this year had a therapist help me pin down a diagnosis... not that it really changed anything other than give my brain something to ponder. i believe what bbjjbb has to say -- it's about the chemicals in your brain, that why you don't have to have anything 'big' happening to cause you feel bad... you can scold yourself and repeat snap out it all you want, but that won't fix the real problem. hope you find some med's that can, it really is like night and day.... xo meow
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I'm the same as you hun, and I've been told mine is organic, ie not triggered by any specific events; it just is.

Diabetes doesn't have a trigger for someone to become diabetic, yet they need monitoring and/or insulin; this is what I compare organic mental illness to. Its just one of those things.
Therapy and medications are ways of exploring and controlling the illness. Don't give up and don't beat yourself up. You're not alone.
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thnks. glad i posted
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I have been in therapy for a long time also but I dont necessarily feel like that is a bad thing. I find it is a release to talk to some one who understands me and can help me sort out why I am feeling that way and what to do about it. It helps me a lot, but I have a really good therapist.
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Depression is a MONSTER. I'm not an expert in the field, but can offer practical thoughts based on my own battles with depression. You could be the richest and most successful person on the face of the earth, and suffer from depression to the extent that you no longer want to live. From my own battles, I'v come to believe that it is not a matter of "snapping out of it." Depression needs professional help, and even that is not an exact science. Stick with the therapy, meds that are prescribed, and reach out to us at DS who know what you're going through. Wish you the best.
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