dealing with depression isnt as easy as one two three. it takes time and being on this web site is a good step so welcome and its a good start. everything that your doing is going to send you do the right path

i know exactly how u feel,i have no answers,i tried anti-dep, but didn't work for me i became zombie,i think u just have to acept it when everything feels shit,cry(so what) and try and enjoy it when u feel a bit better,but there again what do i know,iv'e been on my own for 15 years and i haven't cracked it yet...good luck mate...brian

I live with this on a daily basis. I wish there were easy answers. exercising does help, so do the anti-depressants, eventually. I suffer from severe treatment-resistant depression, so meds and me are not the best of friends.
I just recently came to the realization that my total lack of self worth is tied up in a bunch of crap from my past. I'm sorry you are suffering so much. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.
I started seeing a psych, and that has helped. talking, when I can actually find someone to listen and am in a state of mind to do it, is helpful as well.
do involve your wife in your treatment. I know it's hard! but it is necessary. she needs to know when you're having bad days and good days. I don't tell my husband everything, but I do let him know when I'm just not doing well.

being here is also a good start

my thoughts are with you

In thinking about some of these same thoughts last evening I came up with some things I added to my journal. If I may put the main idea here I hope it's helpful.

"I thank God for the little children I care for every day for they remind me of the wonders of life we take for granted as adults. Some days are more harsh for them just like it is for adults but they depend on the love of others, moms, dads, grandparents, sisters and brothers to help them with their problems. The sweet little 2 yr old girl I care for has been taught to put her hands together as if in prayer when she says 'please'. She may not be really praying but rather is genuinely asking for something she wants or needs. How like that we must learn to be. She also has just one word she uses when she is troubled or has fallen and needs my assistance. Simply she calls out "HELP!" That's all God asks us to say isn't it? He is always right here to do just that.

One last thought just crossed my mind too. The 14 mo. old precious boy has few words at his command yet but one he knows and understands is this. "All gone." When things are eaten up and no longer there he simply says "All gone." Some day I pray, my friends, you will be able to realize that God has your troubles in His hands and they are for you now ALL GONE. Isn't that a precious response for us to be able to use when we see His arms around us as we hurt, are ill or depressed? The situations may still be present but for me they can also be out of my own grip. He can make them "All gone".

Reading and sharing on this site is a good start for any of us. Reading God's word and sharing our hearts with the creator is a greater step yet. God Bless.

all that i can add it this.....meds take a long time to work....it can take up to a month to feel any relief....

also, it took three years of trying different meds to find the one that works for me....so please...dont think that anti depressants dont work after just trying one...there are so many, and any one of them could help you.....dont give up hun....you just need some patients and some help from a caring doctor as well as the support that you get from all of us fine people....dont forget the support that you need from your family and friends....im here if you need to talk....lots of love....jann

wow...i hope you are able to go to therapy and find some healing. i hope you can get to the root of why you are feeling worthless.....

i struggle with feeling worthless too. i had one of those childhoods where my dad left us for young women and to party....so i've always struggled with being worthy to be loved...i started therapy and the forgiving process when i was 17....it's been a long journey....hang in there friend, my heart goes out to you....

My gosh.....you have listed in your post quite a few significant achievements there (perhaps without even realising?)

28yrs old and owning your own home in this day and age is a huge thing and not to be sneezed at.

My 9yr old daughter told me the other day that she was a loser...it broke my heart so we sat down and played a little game. (I should point out here that she had previously been in therapy with a child psychologist for sexual abuse so I used some of the stuff they did in therapy)

She had to name one thing that she thought she was really good at (either an activity or a quality about herself) and then I named one then she named one. Then we did the opposite...name something about her that she didn't like........she couldn't come up with anything and neither could I. That in itself helped her to get back on track. As an added extra help, we started up a journal for her where she has to list at least one thing for that day that she thought was a good thing and one thing that she thought was bad and then we discuss it before dinner. Also in that book she lists 5 things that she is grateful for and we have agreed that when she is not feeling very good about herself that she comes and talks to me or her Dad rather than yelling at herself that she is a loser.

Maybe something like this could help you too? It's worth giving it a shot and hey, if you find it doesn't work for you then at least you can say that you tried and no-one can fault you for trying.

I can't add much to what has been said, except you can talk to me about it anytime! I know how ya feel

and you are quite something, married, own home....please don't ever feel there is no one, there is always someone here, and you can count on me