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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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I would like to know if anyone has some advice on trusting my loved one. He has never done anything wrong but I keep telling myself that he will. I'm so down on myself that I can't just be happy and accept that he is a great guy. My mind tells me I'm not good enough. I read his emails. It sounds so stupid but I just can't get my mind to stop telling me he is going to hurt me. It's ruining my relationship.
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sounds like you have someone you can trust,so if that is the case, work on it in therapy ,talk to him...let him know what you are feeling and why.
but dont ruin a good thing,if you want it it is worth working for.
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Your guy hasn't done or said anything that would make you think he's being shady, so the best advice I can offer is he isn't. Give the big lug a hug and a kiss and tell him you appreciate him. Show him you love him and he'll either show you he loves you back, or not. Either way, problem solved.
I don't think telling her being in a relationship at her age is a waste of her time is fair, Jimjim. She feels insecure. She feels like she's not worthy of her boyfriend/husband's love. What she needs from us is assurance that this is normal, that some if not all of us have been through this and how we dealt with it. Part of depression for some, myself included, is to sabotage a good relationship because we don't want to get hurt, so we end it before we can. Imagine how her boyfriend is going to react if he ever catches her reading his e-mails? Have you ever worried yourself sick with whether or not your loved one was stepping out on you because you weren't worth their love? It sucks.
Jrbrock honey...I stand by what I said. You have to realize this is normal for depression, and self esteem counselling will help.
I hope you have a good therapist, if not find one and find out where this lack comes from but in the mean time STOP treating him like he's the enemy.
I know it's not easy but find somewhere else you can channel that energy when the doubts come up. Go clean the bathroom or bake something but DON'T give in to it. Write yourself long letters detailing what is going on in your mind then burn them whatever works for you that keeps you from giving in to this doubt and relieves the tension so you can give him the love he deserves.