I have never done this before, but I have nowhere else to turn. I don't think it is my place to speak about this with any friends or family because it would be unfair to my spouse.... My husband has been struggling with depression for about 8 months now (that I am aware of) and I have tried to help him through this as best as I know how, but nothing seems to help. He has tried Effexor (and he couldnt handle the side effects) and Paxil (didnt help at all), and a couple others I cant remember the names of. Usually I am the one in this family who struggles with depression, so you would think I would know what to do, but I am clueless. I have tried motivating him to get out with his friends, or for us to go out as a family. I try to be positive about everything, and help him talk through it when I notice that he is having a bad day. I try to give him advice for things I have tried, and things that helps me, like excersise (yes, I know it's hard to make yourself want to do that when you would rather lay in bed all day...but the first time is the hardest, it gets easier each time..for me anyways, especially when you feel the difference in yourself afterwords). I have read the book The Seceret, and it helped me try to teach myself to think positive thoughts especially when I am feeling bad, to help make me not feel so negative all the time. I try to do things with him that he enjoys, but all it seems to do is pass the time...hes happy while we do things, but right afterwords its back to how he felt before. He sleeps 12 or more hours a day, and I have learned that I can't desturb that or else hes pissed at me all day. I am getting to the point where I feel hopeless and so very frustrated, and I don't want to give up on him, but I don't see a light at the end of the tunnel (and obviously neither does he). I feel like I have run out of ideas, and I want to help him get better because I know its possible, I have struggled with it my whole life, and I continue to motivate myself every day so I don't continue to live my life that way because I have a husband and a child to take care of, but I don't know how. Please WE need help to get through this.
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