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How a best friend do this??!!

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We were inseparable for our entire lives. Sometimes we lived together and when we weren't together we were on the phone 24/7 talking, watching movies together or reading to each other over the phone sometimes. We had everything in common, I thought. We took so many trips together and basically ever memory from my past includes her. She just left me at a hotel room one morning, said she was going to work and would be back later like nothing. I sat there watching the time, the room wasn't even paid for for the next day yet and I didn't know it. We were staying there temporarily because we were looking for a place to rent together, I thought. She was using my car cause hers got repossessed cause she couldn't afford it. So I was left stranded all day while she was off with my car. When it got dark and she still didn't show up or call me and I didn't have a cell phone then, just my lap top and the hotel phone. I called my friend jody and he came and got me. I was crying and confused and so upset. We reported her as a missing person and I was homeless for a week, going from friends house to friends house and not eating or sleeping only crying. When I got a email from her saying she just had to leave but couldn't tell me why I knew she was fine and had stolen my car and left on purpose. It's been 5 months and I still don't know why, she won't tell me anything and has been deleting and blocking my emails. I can't call her cause I don't know her number anymore and I don't know where she is living except somewhere in Tampa FL. She has been asking me to send her the car title to the car she stole recently, she asked me about 4 times now. I know she wants it badly and I thought maybe I would send it cause the police will never find her anyway and I don't really want her arrested that wouldn't make me feel better. Keeping the title would only be a form of revenge and I don't want revenge. Maybe in the long run sending it to her will help and if she never speaks to me again anyway, then at least I will know I tried by doing that. :( I don't know what to do!
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What an horrible experience. I would say dont send the paperwork, it is your car and she is bullying you. Of course there must be strong reasons why she left like that, but this has nothing to do with you. she hurt you and now she wants your car, dont give in. you can support, give love and help but you cant help her when she is doing bad things.
she does not want to talk to you, let her go for a few months, then try again. But dont let yourself feel guilty or bullied, she might be in a horrible situation herslef but you need to think about you. Hugs
deleted_user
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that's what upsets me I don't know what she is doing or why I'm afraid to lose her forever :( and I know she is bullying me I know it's not right But I go in circles thinking I shouldn't send it then I want to again How can she not want to talk to me all of a sudden THAT'S WHAT HURTS THE MOST :( thanks for your help
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of course you are hurt and the pain wont disappear quickly, thats not easy but your feelings are hurt and you wont forget it so quickly. How could she do that? It has nothing to do with you, SHE HAS A PROBLEM, NOT YOU. Feel sorry for her, she must be in a desperate situation to behave like that and bully her best friend. Now, you are the strongest one, of course you cry and you feel horrible now, but in the end you did not do anything to feel ashamed of yourself. She abandonned you, because she had issues, not because you pushed her away. Sometimes people you love and who love you do hurtful things, and they do it BECAUSE they love you, to hurt you. If they didnt care they wouldnt do it.. Now, you need to find people who love you and dont hurt you. Not easy but it will happen. hugs
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I'm all for making things right with people, but I just have to say, if you send her the title, you are enabling her. Enabling her to hurt people, and enabling her to steal. DO NOT send her that title!! It is YOUR car. You paid for it, it belongs to you. She is trying to GUILT you into giving her a free car. Please don't give into her.

I know, because I had a friend do this to me also. We had to hire a tow truck to go and reposses our own vehicle. My friend was a user, and abuser, and now you have one in your life. You didn't do anything, it all has to do with her own problems, don't give in to her threats!
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
I would give the police the address she gave me to send the title.
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Aspire4grace I must say you are absoluely right. Magical girl do NOT give in, you are worth more than being pushed around. Her issues are not for you to suffer over.
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thanks for all that so much totema HUG!
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and to everyone else who wrote she has me brain washed sometimes i think the things she made me believe before she left and what she is trying to do now i think i'm just in shock and denial that she could be this way to ME! i thought she cared more :(
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I know, but some people are just mean hearted. You can't let it get to you. You have to tell yourself, CONVINCE YOURSELF, that SHE is the one with the problem. It's not you! You are not a bad person, you do not deserve this.
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She probably cares about you, she just has so much anger that she can only show it to you negatively. But remember, its YOUR car, YOUR life and YOUR feelings; you control that and she has no rights to upset you to such extent, even if she feel horrible herself. Let us know how things go, but be strong, dont let her brainwash you.
Testycatlady
Testycatlady
Report her to the police. If she is that bad to steal from a friend... Maybe cooling her sorry ass in jail will give her time to think through her problems. No one deserves to be treated the way she did you. She is using you! What ever you do... do not send her the paperwork to the car.
Hugs. Take care of yourself.
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IN the book "He's Jus not that Into you " the author talks about how we always want to know why we are dumped, left with no reason given, deserted in the night. I love his response, which in, in effect, he doe sit because he is the worst asshole ever and not worthy of your love or interest. Seems lik eyour friend falls into the same group. It is harsh, but you need to put it behind you. As for the car Hell no! I wouldnt send her the papers, I would send her the police. This is not retrobution, this is te fatc that it is YOUR car! Why shoul dyou walk and she drive? I am so sorry this happned to you and I hope you can put it behind you and learn to trust again!
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I have major abandonment issues from all this and I hope I can get over it too Its not easy to realize your ONLY best friend is gone :( and for what i dont even understand I've been lied to a lot and deserted by ex boyfriends but she was the only constant thing in my life its just hard thank you all so much HUG i will let you all know what happens if anything :( maybe i'll just never talk to her again
deleted_user
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You might have to not talk to her again until she starts behaving normally. Friendships you make in your childhood can be fragile. You have both grown up in different directions, it does not mean you wont find another best friend. You feel abandon because of her and your ex; you have just not been lucky but again nothing wrong with you. Some people cant deal with being close to others. It means that now you are free to make new serious relationships with caring people :)
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Unfortunately some friends aren't for ever.
Dont give her your car, give her what she deserves; the police and a big talking to xx
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