also living in poverty see this also these politacns hoding 1500 dollar plate fund raisers where do the funds go

Most of those fundraisers, they are drunk halfway through the event

"Celebrities change lovers like most people change socks and they get married for all the wrong reasons and then break up when they get bored."
i think that applies to people in general

Yes, but I think it is because Hollywood says it is OK

naw... this was going on way before that, since the beginning of time. i think its just the way it is... the only difference is way back when infedelity was something that was kept quiet and pushed off to the side because divorice was so frowned upon

I don't disagree with that, but today it is simply glamorized

agree... like "oh well, its just another divorce"... don't think its just hollywood, but do think that people are getting used to the idea that if a marriage doens't work theres always an easy way out... thats one of the many reasons i don't believe in marriage to begin with... souldn't say i don't believe in it, if it works for you, right on, but i'd never commit to it

hello no i don't worship hollywood. I don't care what they do

I think we're raised to have this picture in our head of how marriage should be - and that there is someone "perfect" out there for all of us. But it's not so. There is no one perfect. It doesn't matter who you end up marrying, there will be problems to work out. You could marry Dr. McDreamy and there would be problems. People don't see marriage as the commitment it really is - we say "yeah sure, for better or for worse" but as soon as it gets worse, we tend to automatically think that we've made a mistake, the right person is still out there and we're wasting our time. Most of the time, when someone has been married 4 times...they probably should have just worked things out with the first one.

I want to believe in it, I am losing faith, my wife left after 4 years, saying we had "nothing in common", which ironically happened right after I quit a high-paying job.
That was nearly 2 years ago and I haved moved on except for the Holidays, where I still struggle..

Separate yourself from Hollywood, and don't perceive that your future will be based on or similar to your past. There is someone out there - be patient and consider the channels you're using to meet someone new. I'm sorry about your first wife. She doesn't sound like she was very fair or reasonable about her grounds for divorce. Don't give up! You have your future ahead of you. ;)

i get a little annoyed with the whole celebrity worship thing.....BUT

there were many women that HAD to stay in abusive marriages all their lives..when "society" frowned on divorce...and a divorced woman...well..she was pretty much trash..DAMN lucky to ever get employment..no options left for her, really.

people..male or female..sometimes just happen to marry a sucky person. i really don't think Hollywood has much to do with being an asshole. :)

Hollywood, in and of itself, is not the problem. We have a very self-indulgent society. In fact, our awareness of Hollywood is just another sign of our indulgent tendencies. Why do we gawk at the entertainment shows and news in the first place? And Washington DC is equally as indulgent as Hollywood--and DC is supposed to be the seat of our values, morals, and ethics.

We need look no further than ourselves for the blame on this one. We have put in place the leaders who embody the values we hold--and if we didn't look at them closely enough, we got what we asked for. WE buy into the quasi-truth of the surface, and fail to look more deeply for substance.

I am over-saturated with this world's excesses. It robs our spirits. We believe we deserve everything and we deserve it now...and it better taste good, feel good and cause us no inconvenience at any time...I call it the fast food mentality...We don't care if it isn't good for us in the long run...We don't look beyond NOW...We act like spoiled children...
That is what has happened with marriage, with culture, with society, with our health, with our children, with our minds...We have gotten highly expectant and very lazy...I recommend shutting off the entertainment news that will inevitably depress you by making you feel inadequate or sickened by the shallowness and plant a garden of hope :0)

I was definitely not referring to any marriages that included abuse, addiction, adultery or the like. Just the part about "changing spouses like changing socks".