aww hun first i wanna offer you a big hug and I know this isnt enough..I know losing someone hurts bad and especially when you need them...What happened? What made him make this decision?

HUGS sweetie I know that the hurt runs so deep and how alone you must feel hugs

I'm a believer that things happen for a reason, even though for the most part we don't understand why things happen at the time, it becomes clearer later on.

My psych once told me that I didn't need a man to complete my life, but that it was nice to have one to share my life with and there's truth to that statement.

Sometimes we have to be on our own so that we can focus on resolving things within ourselves. Being alone isn't a death sentence and a lot of people end up finding out more about themselves for it.

But it hurts when someone we love no longer wants the same things we do in a relationship and they decide to move on, and that's something you need to do as well, cos you're the only one that can live your life.

You will get through this in time and if you're in therapy then take the opportunity to discuss this with your therapist so that they can guide you through the breakup.

Hugs xxxxx

He said that he's tired of hurting me and that he was sorry. He said that he still wants me in his life; but he wants to focus on other things. But then he said he wanted a break. I asked him he could leave me when i needed him the most, and he had no answer. He 's gonna let go if he hasn't already. It hurts so bad.

As hard as it is to understand right now, sometimes people focus in life change and sometimes that doesn't include the people they are currently with :(

He has his life to live too and if one party doesn't believe that the relationship can be reconciled then unfortunately you have to acknowledge that the relationship cannot be saved.

On the other hand, there may have been things that have happened that have caused him stress and to react the way he has. Maybe after you both sleep on it you might think differently and then maybe a small separation while you two sort out stuff might also be good for the two of you.

If you truly believe that the relationship is worth saving then you will find a way to do it, but you also have to look at it realistically in that it may be over and there is nothing you can do now but try to move forward as best as possible

i never really had a boyfriend before so im not sure what advice to give but i hope you feel better soon:)

I just wish i didn't hurt so bad. I wish I was a stronger person :(

You need to lean on others now hun. You said that he stated that he did not want to hurt you anymore. How was he hurting you? Sometimes breakups are a blessing in disguise. I thank god that 2 of my past relationships did not work out now. Then I hurt, but now I am thankful.

He would pick his friends over me, he would call me names, and refuse to acknowledge that my depresssion is a condition. He apologized for everything, and said that he's not ready to jump back into a relationship. I just started counseling; and i have nobody to physically be here with me.

Oh, hun I feel for you. My boyfriend just did the EXACT same thing to me last week and I am still hurting so badly. He said the same thing...he doesn't want me out of his life but he feels we both have issues to sort out right now. Tonight is the first night since our breakup that he has not called to check on me. He had been calling me a couple of times a day to talk, he would always tell me that he still loves me. I thought everything was going to work itself out...but now I'm not so sure. I tried to call him tonight but his phone was turned off, which may be a good thing because I swore I was not going to call him. All I can do is wait and let him come to me...because if it's meant to be, he will do just that. In the mean time, I have to get on with my life. And you should, too...that's all we can do at this point. I know it's hard, I'm right there with you! Surround yourself with friends, that's the only thing that has helped me thus far. (((hugs)))