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Hi everyone
I haven't posted in a while, but now I feel I need to. I am very confused and lost right now, scared even. The holidays don't help of course.
So here it is with a brief background to how this happened or is happening.
My sisters boyfriend, who is supposedly her fiance is in prison, he is supposed to be getting out quite soon. Before he went in he lived with my family to "be" with my sister for the time he had left that started as a week and turned into the entire summer and fall of last year. My sister was in college in the city, he went with her most times, but when he would stay here, if my parents werent home he would come on to me and offer me "sexual" experience. As I am a survivor of abuse this was very threatening. When I told my parents, they sort of didnt believe me and shook it off. Other than my mother, my entire family does not like him. He didn't work or contribute anything while he was here, and was believed to manipulate my sister and Mom, and at one time attempted to put my sister against me.
Ok so here is what is going on now, as I said he is about to come out. My sis is trying to blackmail my Mom into letting him come back to live in this house by threatening she will run away with him. My step-dad who is so fed up with him said that if he does come back he will move out and leave my mom. When I told my mom I felt that I didnt want him back here either, especially since they are going away for two weeks in december leaving me here alone with my sister and possiblly him, I told her I wouldn't stand for it. It was then that I said I would leave as well. Her reply was that she couldn't bare to lose a daughter (meaning my sister) that I would lose her (my mom) if I left.
So here I am stuck in a hard place that is tearing me apart. Even worse, we were in the process of our seasonal decorating which we would always do together. I have not spoken to her since I walked out. I am afraid to be the first to say something.
I can't stop crying and don't know what to do, I don't want to lose my Mom or my Sister because of a very bad person.
I haven't posted in a while, but now I feel I need to. I am very confused and lost right now, scared even. The holidays don't help of course.
So here it is with a brief background to how this happened or is happening.
My sisters boyfriend, who is supposedly her fiance is in prison, he is supposed to be getting out quite soon. Before he went in he lived with my family to "be" with my sister for the time he had left that started as a week and turned into the entire summer and fall of last year. My sister was in college in the city, he went with her most times, but when he would stay here, if my parents werent home he would come on to me and offer me "sexual" experience. As I am a survivor of abuse this was very threatening. When I told my parents, they sort of didnt believe me and shook it off. Other than my mother, my entire family does not like him. He didn't work or contribute anything while he was here, and was believed to manipulate my sister and Mom, and at one time attempted to put my sister against me.
Ok so here is what is going on now, as I said he is about to come out. My sis is trying to blackmail my Mom into letting him come back to live in this house by threatening she will run away with him. My step-dad who is so fed up with him said that if he does come back he will move out and leave my mom. When I told my mom I felt that I didnt want him back here either, especially since they are going away for two weeks in december leaving me here alone with my sister and possiblly him, I told her I wouldn't stand for it. It was then that I said I would leave as well. Her reply was that she couldn't bare to lose a daughter (meaning my sister) that I would lose her (my mom) if I left.
So here I am stuck in a hard place that is tearing me apart. Even worse, we were in the process of our seasonal decorating which we would always do together. I have not spoken to her since I walked out. I am afraid to be the first to say something.
I can't stop crying and don't know what to do, I don't want to lose my Mom or my Sister because of a very bad person.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
ESP. you mom..i mean...geez...what the hell is she THINKING??
i would not leave your house and let this guy hurt the rest of your family, i would stick it out and let him know if he ever touched me, i would call the cops.
i would think eventually your sister will wise up and kick someone out that is hurting her family, but i just don't know.
goodluck
I think it is an empty threat. She is looking for a place of her own, but has no money. She works as a pastry chef but keeps jumping jobs and has loans to pay off. A big dream with no reality.
I have never been withought my mom, she was there for me through everything, and now that I am finally doing so well, I feel like I'm losing her. She is under alot of stress, but I need to have boundaries which keep getting harder to maintane.