Try not to feel too bad, I'm sure you contribute in other ways. You didn't choose to be ill and if it were the other way around you wouldn't want your husband to feel any guilt.

I agree with Dizzy you cant help being ill and all you can do is try to make things easier on your partner in other ways...
May I ask why you arent able to work?

I have severe depression and anxiety. It's hard for me to even leave my home.

Ah thats tough... ive been there. But its not something that cant be fought so there is hope of you returning to work when you feel better. Also have you considered any kind of home work?

Yes I have considered home work but I don't know what it would be. My computer skills are basic. There are alot of days that are spent just trying to get through the day, I would hate it if I could not keep up my end of the deal.

please take this in the spirit it is meant

is there anything you can do, a little job, not much money but would help in making you feel like you are contributing something?

I don't know the extent of your disability, but I know having a job does keep me going, knowing I have to be somewhere, otherwise I would sit and stew all day sometimes
And yes, I agree with dizzycow, there are other ways to contribute instead of financially

I think the important thing here is to try to not let the guilt get to you as it will only make you feel more depressed. Your not doing anything wrong. Work on getting better and then focus on whats needed after that. Your the most important thing here.

I'm not sure what your interest are (not that anyone enjoys cleaning)but I used to work cleaning peoples houses, it's good if you dont want to be around people as you can do it on your own while they're out.
A friend of mine also does ironing for people, it's not mentally or emotionally demandind and you can do it from home. Just suggestions, might help.

I know what you mean. I feal guilty too. But taking care of the house is a job of it's own.

Money isn't everything. I am sure there are other contributoins you are making. Don't be so hard on yourself hon!

Let me add this to my many other problems I posted on my thread. I began this life as a go getter and a very hard worker. Depression itself was bad but, at some point I was used to it or stronger than it...sort of. I still had a functional life. I worked, ran kids to daycare,school,ect. At the end of each day I would pat myself on the back and tell myself...you made it through another day. Bipolar type 2 set in and those days are gone. Trust me hon, an at home mom and wife is a job in its own. You do contribute. It may not be money wise but it is in EVERY OTHER way possible.

It makes me feel like crap...especially this time of year. I have been awaiting disability for over 2 years. Prior, I always worked, now, I depend on my child to feed me. She is a young adult, working on her masters in college and has a small child. She should not have to be burdened with taking care of a sick mom. I feel guilty over every piece of bread I eat. Some days, I just want to disappear.

Shoot, I have had many careers, and let me tell you, being a stay at home Mom was the hardest.

Why is it, no one thinks you have nothing to do because you don't work outside the home? I worked harder and longer hours. Add, the mom in law and her, since you don't work could you run me hear, there or whatever. The husband that forgets to even pick up his nasty drawers off the floor....why, you don't work, that is your job.

Please, working outside the home was the easy way out for me..............

Thank you all for joining in on my discussion this morning. I Love you all.