The hate voice is not you. You are confused, but you are here looking for answers. I bet if you stay long enough, and get into the mix, you will find some answers, and some friends. This is the best support site I have found on line. Welcome to the getting better blace.

I am sorry that you are down right now. I understand your feelings and feel they are justified in every way. I also feel that what you are going through is part of marriage. Try not to judge yourself here, it is not fair. Let him have his break and maybe you will find that is exactly what you needed too. When was the last time you could focus only on yourself? Take comfort in knowing that your husband knows his boundaries and consider offering him respect for exercising them. I trust this weekend you will do the same. Take time to do for yourself.
How are you feeling today?

Before you get too upset at him or you, read John Gray's Men are from Mars Women are from Venus. When there is stress or a problem, men like to be alone and retreat to their caves; women like to talk. For men, if there is a problem, the last thing you want to do is talk more; imagine you had a big meal and now you feel sick, consider someone bringing over spaghetti with oil and garlic.

Don't get too bummed out, give him a little time. And don't feel like you are having more or worse problems; it's just the different ways women and men do things and deal with the conflicts and stress of daily life.

Anything having to do with this sort of subject is a huge trigger for me. I'm sorry you are going through this, it doesn't feel good at all. I know all too well.

It's not all about you. That's his solution to run off rather than stay or deal with it.

Don't punish yourself. Look at the long range. Is this a temporary tough spot or has the relationship come to a crossroads?

If its a temporary snag best to try to regroup.

honey, sometimes I need a break from myself. grab this time and indulge. bubble bath, call friends, watch a great chic flick. go for t

Hi Ashling, you sound like me,"I feel bad knowing that someone needs a break from me." I don't feel like I hate myself but I do feel like if you love someone you stick with them through the highs and lows, you don't run out! At least that is the way I feel.