I am so sorry you are faced with all of these worries. You keep trying honey. you do it for your daughter and you do it to prove them wrong. I was a single parent with my son and I got us our own place. It was my first apartment. totally based on my income. Most of these places also have emergency placement. On monday, call catholic charities, social services,ect. Tell them the situation and they will direct you with who needs to be called. Keep going. You owe it to yourself and your little girl.

you will be something! is there anywhere else that you can go?

there are shelters...I don't know where you live, but when I left my husband I found a program that housed single moms for two years, and the moms had to be either employed full time or in school full time....it wasn't the best, but there are places you can go besides druggies and the street. It is probably hard to see the options right now if you are scared...keep talking to us

First & foremost, you are not worthless.

If you are having trouble focussing on continuing for you, think of your little girl.

I am so sorry you are having to face this all alone right now. Have you tried some places like the American Red Cross?

*hugs*

Hey girl, sorry you're feeling so bad and hopeless. I understand alot of the feelings you're having. The worthlessness, nobody cares, being out on the streets. Don't let what people have done or said to you define you as a person or shape your self-worth and value as a person. It's not your fault. I've been raped, I've been verbally, physically, emotionally abused as well. I've lived on the streets or at whoever's places since I was 15. My brother killed himself, my dad's in prison and my mom didn't want me to live with her anymore. It's a f-ing shitty situation let me tell you. You can let it make you or break you. You are worth something, you are here for a reason and you go through what you go through for a reason as well. Keep you chin up and hold your head high. Do what you can do to the best of your ability and that's all you have to do. Trust in yourself. Everything will work out, everything gonna be ok. hang in there ok? keep talking, keep reaching out, it's all good. I'm so sorry for your pain. It doesn't last forever I've learned. best wishes and hugs, Benny

You could have someone else take care of her for a while. Until you get back on your feet. A foster care sitation isn't permanent, and it is NO REFLECION on you as a parent. It just means you need to handle some logistics like where to live and how to earn a living. When you've taken care of those then you'll have a home for your daughter. So even if she gets removed from your care you aren't necessarily losing her.

Go to your local police station they can set you up with the right people.

You will be something! You can escape this, I know because I did!!! I had a little girl and I got out. Can you call a shelter? You have the courage, find it within yourself, for you and your daughter. You have strength, you are scared I know but you have your daughter and that is something worth fighting for. You and her..you can do this. I've been there, it was hard and the first step is scary and the hardest but it is worth it.

Well to start with you have your daughter to live for. You brought her into this world and it is up to you to keep it together so there is always someone out there for her MOM! You may make mistakes and it may be hard to go forward, but you have to do what you have to do to grow into a strong enough person to at least be alive for your daughter.

There are always answers besides the streets and drug houses. In Canada and the U.S. there ARE options. Check out friends you can stay with or maybe a live-in housekeeper or comething. there are always options you just have to find them.

It will take time and pain to get back on your feet. WHO did you loose your daughter to or do you still have her? You NEED to stay alive for the child you brought into the world.

the drug house i was referring to is the only friend i have that would let me stay with them even tho they don't exactly have the room. i live in a small rural town in kansas and we dont' have a shelter. i have no transportation to go anywhere else.

you could find out where the nearest shelter is and take a bus.

god i hope you don't feel pressured by all the "for your daughter" messages. if you can't take care of her now don't feel bad. Just find someone who can. Lots of good suggestions on where to go.

don't feel like you have to live up to anything cause if you do you'll get worse

do what you can and make sure your daughter has what she needs whether or not you can give it to her now. You'll be there for her in all the ways you can. Hopeflly that means you'll be supporting her soon, but if not that's ok too. I hope you work things out and get to keep her, but it worries me that people are saying to define your identity as being a mom. It worries me cause the very word brings up all kinds of expectations, and you don't need expectations right now.

You are a mother and that's a big part of who you are, but that doesn't have to mean caring for her when you don't feel up to it.

I'm sure there are other things that mean something to you, and you need more than one. That way when one isn't going well you at least have the others. But you need to feel better before you can do better.

Sometimes when being a Mom, yes, you do need another person helping you. By taking your daughter with you to this drug house will she be at risk of getting hurt??? There are different kinds of drugs. Would your daughter have food and shelter in this environment? One way or another find a place where both of you will be safe. Does Kansas have a social services system, a womens shelter, or can your friend in the drug house actually help you become stronger?? Like anything, there is a difference between use and abuse, including with drugs. Because a person has an occassional drink does not mean he or she is an alcoholic. What makes you say or think you would loose your daughter?