I no longer have friends. People just dont understand me.

It is hard and yes I have found that friends and family tire of you when you stay down for long periods. I just do the best I can. I find strength knowing that the people here truly understand what I am going through. People that don't have this illness just don't understand, I think they do mean well, but unless you are here where we are you can't understand what we are going through. Again, I try to think "Are they really friends?" For the ones that take all the time and never give, then they are not really friends to begin with!Hugs xxxx

I dont have that one lifelong friend that is always by your side. I have one friend who, for as long as I've known her, has been a rock to me. What I have never had is a network of friends. A group of people who any one of you would be happy to spend some time with. That would be nice. I hate lonelyness.

Personally, I think that these people that we thought were friends were in reality nothing more than acquaintances. If they were true friends, they would stick by us through thick and thin; good times and bad times. I have learned that many people can not accept that depression is an illness, just like cancer or heart disease. It is almost like if they can't see it, it isn't real. It can make for very lonely times, but the ones that sincerely care about you will always be there for you. Stay strong, feel better. Hugs!

Baz, i know exactly of what you speak. i have written in my journal about this very thing. it is likewe have some dreaded disease that they will catch. I think that maybe the instict of self preservation kicks in and people just dont want to bum out. People like us are unique and unless you are US, you dont know, you dont care and you have NO idea.
Hope that helps...there really is nothing we can do. it is not just friends it is family, mom and dads, bros and sis's too.

i have one life long friend who has always been there for me..dispite the fact that we dont see each other from one year to the next..but he's such a good mate,always there when i need advice..and as for the rest ..well they have there own little lives to live..so what im trying to say is dont give up matey..we are your life long friends..we share a common bond and this should be enough...sorry if this is no help but..

I hate 'good weather' friends. had 1 once now don't see her atall, thankfully, if she needed me, I was there, but if I needed her she always ALWAYS had something to do.

But these were people that I thought I could talk to and it just faded off.

Baz sometimes we (depressed people) can be a lot to handle. Maybe talk to them to see what went wrong?

i thought i had a really good friend, i trained her for the job and when she lost her baby i was there for her, the minuite she got out of hospital, i was round hers, i texted her everyday, hugged her when she needed it. she told me i was the best friend she had ever had...
now 6 months later, im not well, iv had nearly 2 weeks off work and she hasn't even sent me a txt to see if im ok. some friend. iv never had close friends so this is new to me and to be honest it hurts. i don't know what to say to her when i go back to work....

folks without depression do not get it, how could they? They just cannot understand what it is like, it is foreign to them. they just dont get it.

Even some with it don't get it ether.

I have found that there are certain levels of friends. My true friends and the ones that are great to just hang with when I used to get out for the occasional drink. These are still the ones who have no kids yet and are still wild. Dont take it personally at all. I know its hard not to at times but, sometimes we learn who our friends are in times of feeling bad. We know who to keep close and who to write off.

I have been indifferent to my friends lately, as well. I can't decide if we really are growing apart of if my problems have gotten so bad that I am driving others away.

Sometimes I think I need to make new friends, the kind that don't party as much and are calm and collected. That couldn't hurt.

i tend to keep to myself.i had many friends, but they all stabbed me in the back when i got sick.i guess they were never true friends.....but i love ALL my friends here on d/s