Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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I just had a quick question...
I have been trying to tell my friends how I am feeling but I can't seem to tell them, I have had ample opportunities but I just can't seem to do it. I want to tell them I am cutting & that I need them so I can stop this...I want to tell 3 of them that know me the best and lived with me for a year at school so they know that I sometimes go thru these cycles, but I never have I cut...so I guess I am asking for a little help in how do I tell them?? Thanks for taking the time to help me!
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If you can't begin the conversation with talking, perhaps you could show them your cuts. However, I beg of you, please stop cutting. I do understand what it's like. I did a little myself long ago and I had a few friends who also did it alot. But it doesn't help anything. There's a problem lying underneath making you want to cut, you must find that reason.
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That's a tough conversation to start. Sometimes you just have to take a deep breathe and just say whatever comes out regardless of how imperfect it sounds. I've found that e-mail helps too, mainly because you can attach articles that explain that depression is more than just feeling blue. Some people read them and some people don't, but it will get the conversation going. In the meantime, you have friends here.
starfish
starfish
I think you should go to your school counselor or health clinic, if you're in college. Your friends may not react well, and may not understand. They might be supportive and they might not.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thank you for the help..starfish, I am hoping to go to my school counselor soon. I hope that I can but I wanted to let these friends know whats going on & I guess I was just hoping they would be supportive, but I fear they won't be...thank you for your help
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deleted_user
I understand why you're nervous about talking about it: some of my friends and family members weren't supportive when I told them about my depression. It was really tough especially in the middle of a major depressive episode, but I learned that my really good friends were the ones that stuck with me through it. The ones that didn't weren't worth my precious energy anyway.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hey thanks for being honest...I just wish everyone would be supportive & it would be easy to talk about (I'm dreaming I know!)
starfish
starfish
I think that's what heaven is for!!! But then, we won't need to be suportive in heaven!! LOL!! What will happen to Daily Strength!!

That is very true about friends. When we come out with our true selves, we find out who are true friends are.

But just know, you don't have to lose your friends, or tell them if you don't want to....you can have discussions about other people you know or just the topic itself, to see how they respond to it, and whether or not they would be supportive.
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