Depression Support Group
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Whenever I want to ask for support, I have been made to feel weak and pathetic. It is hard for me to come out and admit I need support, but seeing so many people on this group reach out to others has given me the courage to look up to you guys as well.
My dear boyfriend left me pretty unexpectedly about a month ago now. He still doesn't want to talk to me about it, despite my attempts to contact him. I have even just tried to be his friend and promised not to talk about our relationship problems and he still refuses me. What is so devastating about this is that just a few months ago we were seriously planning on getting married after we graduate in two years. We were even looking for a ring.
Now he suddenly cannot face me and it is driving me insane. I suspect many things of course... but I mostly suspect that my depression and codependency has gotten the better of him. He was always supportive... but no longer.
I am so extremely lonely. I absolutely hate this feeling. He claims to other people that he still loves me, yet I get the cold shoulder to the worst degree. I don't know what to expect and the uncertainty makes me ill. I don't want to be the one to have ruined what a beautiful life we had before this.
I can't stop crying. I don't know what to do. I have finals this week and can't bring myself to write my papers or study. All I can think about is him and the loneliness I feel.
My dear boyfriend left me pretty unexpectedly about a month ago now. He still doesn't want to talk to me about it, despite my attempts to contact him. I have even just tried to be his friend and promised not to talk about our relationship problems and he still refuses me. What is so devastating about this is that just a few months ago we were seriously planning on getting married after we graduate in two years. We were even looking for a ring.
Now he suddenly cannot face me and it is driving me insane. I suspect many things of course... but I mostly suspect that my depression and codependency has gotten the better of him. He was always supportive... but no longer.
I am so extremely lonely. I absolutely hate this feeling. He claims to other people that he still loves me, yet I get the cold shoulder to the worst degree. I don't know what to expect and the uncertainty makes me ill. I don't want to be the one to have ruined what a beautiful life we had before this.
I can't stop crying. I don't know what to do. I have finals this week and can't bring myself to write my papers or study. All I can think about is him and the loneliness I feel.
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
That is what finally made the difference for my relationship - was that he finally saw I was getting real help and really making a turn in the right direction. He always loved me but just couldn't take watching me ruin both of our lives.
I don't have any great advice, hun. Just wanted to say I understand. It can get better!
Good for you for being able to reach out too - I know how hard that is.
~HUGS~
You, by yourself, did not ruin anything. There are 2 people in relationship.
You made a good decision to get support from DS. There are a lot of healthy people here.
Have you considered some counseling?
(((HUGS))).
As hard as it may be...maybe you can immerse yourself in your studies and your final exams. Perhaps he needs space and time to think.
Good scores on your tests will make you feel good...
It even hurts to be cut out of the lives of his family too. He may need time... but I have no guarantee how long that may be or if, in the end, he'll even want anything to do with me anymore . . .
Try to remember the poem..,
If you love something set it free, if it returns it was always meant to be! It sounds like he loves you and he will return when the time is right for both of you.
I know it hurts - I so remember feeling like I had lost the one thing I had to live for. But it really really really does get better. I promise!