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Had a disgreement with my boyfriend. He said I was feeling sorry for myself, poor me, and said I pity myself because I feel so badly that the house my ex and I built, that I planned every detail of, has been taken away from me. No one uttered the words to me I said above except him, he said he used a bad choice of words and we are ok now...
For this to make sense, I will tell my story as short as possible...
My ex and I built a bome, I planned every detail of it. He became crazy, for lack of a better word, he appears bipolar and or borderline personality disorder, as I have talked to many professionals about him. He knew he needed help but couldn't confront Dr's to get help, said he didn't want to hurt me anymore so he divorced me!
I went to his family to see if they could help him, and I opened up a can of rotten worms, they hate me now, and have disowned me, as everything was hidden in their family and I "outed" my ex to them, they couldn't deal with what I was saying.
So now, the ex has his girlfriend or wife living there, in the new house, with her kids, and they adopted one, and it breaks my heart that they all live there in the house I planned.
So my boyfriend said I was doing the poor me and the pitty thing and feeling sorry for myself, and I am NOT, just hurting over something that has been ripped away from me...
Hope this all made sense. Ty for reading it. Love, srosie
For this to make sense, I will tell my story as short as possible...
My ex and I built a bome, I planned every detail of it. He became crazy, for lack of a better word, he appears bipolar and or borderline personality disorder, as I have talked to many professionals about him. He knew he needed help but couldn't confront Dr's to get help, said he didn't want to hurt me anymore so he divorced me!
I went to his family to see if they could help him, and I opened up a can of rotten worms, they hate me now, and have disowned me, as everything was hidden in their family and I "outed" my ex to them, they couldn't deal with what I was saying.
So now, the ex has his girlfriend or wife living there, in the new house, with her kids, and they adopted one, and it breaks my heart that they all live there in the house I planned.
So my boyfriend said I was doing the poor me and the pitty thing and feeling sorry for myself, and I am NOT, just hurting over something that has been ripped away from me...
Hope this all made sense. Ty for reading it. Love, srosie
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Your new boyfriend sounds like he really cares about you. Maybe, & I'm just suggesting, that you try not to talk too much about your ex, the house, etc. with him. Find other people to talk about all that stuff with. Good luck.
he stole something that was your heart and soul.
please don't believe his guilt trips.
if he apologized, that is good. he may be hurt that you still have feelings about your ex. (men have insecurities, too, not just us females),
anyways, trying to help.
men are like babies, they need positive reassurance, just like you and me.
Sit him down when you are both calm and able to listen to eachother and explain whats going on, shock him, scare him, do what ever to takes, he need to understand that his trivialising how how you feel is making things worse for you and making you lose respect for him. Sometimes people need a wake up call, it might be time for his.
As for the ex, I don't know how you feel about it now but you can garentee that you ex's new partner is not all that happy about living in a house that was built and designed by you, it's bricks, and bricks which hold hurt and lies, leave them to it.