This is the first time I've joined or posted any kind of group like this, but I'm really hoping to find some solace here. I'm feeling utterly useless, emotionally exhausted, and my positive energy is quickly dwindling.
My boyfriend suffers from depression, but he won't acknowledge it. He has been through a lot - he is a refugee and came to Europe a couple of years ago. We have always had an up/down relationship, but at times like this when his depression his worse, our relationship of course suffers a lot. I have been trying to support him in so many ways - I have tried doing lots of things for him, being there and taking care of him, I've tried giving him space, tried to see if he wants to talk - and nothing is working. He takes his negativity out on me. I know he doesn't mean it, but I don't know how to make it hurt me less. All my energy goes on him, and it's becoming too draining and tiring. I feel like I am stroking a stone, or talking to a brick wall.
He knows I will always be here for him, and he knows I will support him in any ways I can, but I am really stuck. He won't see a therapist (it is not so accepted or common in his culture), and he won't admit he has depression. He is staying in the house all day every day, he's not seeing friends, he's not eating regularly, he's doing nothing.
I hope someone can give me some kind of support or advice, I feel a bit lost and lonely in this situation now.
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