I think it depends on how you are.

I guess that depends on your age. If you are 80 and he is 91, do you think anyone will really care?

But, if you are underaged and he is 11 years older, than it is an issue.

When I was 17 and met my husband he was 24. It seemed like a big deal back then, but now I am 30 and he is 37 and nobody thinks twice about the difference in our ages.

this all depends on how old YOU are. Your profile dosen't say. So.....how old are YOU?

i am quite young...17...

The answer is: *drum roll* yes and no.

Depending on your age, there are some practical concerns about such an age difference. While love is blind, a relationship involves a lot more than just feelings for another person. 11 years is a great difference -- even a culture reference can fly over the head of someone just a few years older. Music, television, movies, politics, morals, values, there are so many things that age can impact.

For me the issue isn't necessarily age, but someone ability to be alone. Anyone who cannot tolerate being alone is better served by learning to be alone first. Anyone in a relationship out of fear of being alone is headed for a "bumpy road -- puff, puff".

Age only matters if you haven't enough of it. 11 years is nothing at my age, but if you're say, 15, 11 years is a bit much and such relationships are generally based on infatuation and doomed to failure.

Perhaps you should wait until you have reached the age of majority before you go public with your relationship, for his protection. In the meantime I would certainly say to be very careful not to let yourself be taken advantage of and used.

I wish your relationship the best. It will seem like nothing at all if you make it to 33 and 44 together.

sorry hun. You are way to young. Stop dating. Give it 8 years (when you are 25 and resume the relationship) The guilt you feel is normal and neccessary. This is how you know what you are doing is wrong.....And you do know it is wrong. He is sick. and you are not in a healthy place. But I'm not stupid enough to know that YOU will still do what ever you want to. even Behind your parents back. You know by posting this here...( in an adult site) that we would NOT agree with a child dating(or whatever) a way older,(dirty) man. It is not ok for a child to date a an adult. IT IS NOT OK FOR AN ADULT TO DATE A KID!!! Sorry hun. But the ansewr ...is...NO!

so you're 17 and he's 28? hate to say it, but don't think many people are going to like that, but if he really cares about you and treats you with respect, i don't think it's that big an issue.
my twin sis is with someone 12 years older than her. she's 21 though, may be kinda different since you're still a teen.

I feel you should end the relationship and if you still love eachother when you turn 18 then begin dating again.

C'mon..he is a creep.. She is a minor. stop pussy footing around this. If this was your kid...you would have alot more to say. He is dirt! He is a pig. He, should leave this girl alone! And arrasp....trust me, this isn't the guy you are gonna marry. loose him! Find a guy with some integrety.

17 is too young to be with someone 28. you're in high school, he's been out of school for 10 years. people change and grow up a lot in those 10 years. he should never have even gone out with someone your age, it is creepy. i know that's the last thing you want to hear, but trust me, it is true. a decent guy at the age of 28 is NOT going to date a teenager, really.
when i was 17 i met a guy who was 24...i liked him a lot. my mother overheard me telling a friend i wanted to hang out with him, and she put an immediate stop to it. i hated it then, but after i got into my twenties, i knew EXACTLY what she was talking about.
if you insist on seeing him, i really think you should wait til you are 18...but i don't think it's a good idea at all.

i know what u mean ireland80... but just to correct u a little i am not in high school i graduated when i was 16...i aint exaggerating i got proof...lol

I'm going to bed. No matter what. This not right. Question... how does your dad fit into this? I guess I'll find out tomorrow...cause like I said, I'm going to bed. Night:)

Sweetheart, said it once, but can't stress enough, be careful. Question, if you had an 8 year old sister, interested in a 19 year old man, would you be concerned ? What would you think of him ?