Self-affirmations...telling yourself things like, I am beautiful, smart, worthy etc. In the mirror daily. Even if you don't believe it at first you will start too.

I'm not big on psycho bable. You can say you love yourself while staring in the mirror all you want but I think real self esteeem comes from how we treat others. As children we need affirmations from our parents but as we get older,our self esteem comes from kindness toward others. I know I feel good about myself when I doo good things, make healthy choices and so on. By doing this we are in control of our self esteem instead of relying on others.

these are fantastic suggestions here, red. They work too. If these don't work though I take a sort of 'fuck it all I'm gonna do what I can in my own and in my own time and screw what anyone else thinks' plus by the time I've finished that mantra i've usually calmed down lol

I do feel good when I help others but, on a selfish note, I need ways of building my self esteem through me not through others.

Apparently always holding others needs above your own can be detrimental in itself (which is weird, who would've thought that?)

I tell myself that I'm the best damn thing on gods green earth, and if I don't believe it no-one else can!

I also got told off recently for caring more about animals welfare than I do my own.

When I was in rehab we were taught to put self-affirmations on our bathroom mirror. So, its the first thing you see in the morning and when you are in there, putting on makeup or brushing your teeth. You can pick one and make that your mantra for the day. Whenever you start to doubt yourself or you start to get anxious, just keep repeating that one liner until you feel calm.

The idea of self-affirmations is we always are telling other people that they did a good job or that they look good but we never tell ourselves. We need self-praise and self-love. I would go online plug in affirmations and see what you get. Remember, you are a beautiful person who is in control of her destiny.

I don't mean for you to always put other before your needs. I mean that one does good works, self esteem can from that.

La Vey Satanism. lol. j/k. Mostly.

do something esteemble. for yourelf or someone other than you like a friend or co worker the next person you see that you can feel conftorbal with give them something nice.