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Hey everyone.. looking for some advice.
I have this ex-girlfriend who i was in a relationship for 3 years, and she cheated on me and dumped me right before college. I lost 40 pounds in 3 months and she really put me through a melt down. I was in love.. i thought. For a while i just couldnt believe in love anymore... i kept straining of breat and straying away whenever i saw a face like hers...
All the troubled words and troubled mind-numbing moments i had with her.. i completly shelled away untill i felt nothin.
Last summer, we met, and kind of became friends again. It was refreshing... it felt like she was the only one i could "really" talk to.. if you know what i mean. we even start having sex again.. and starting having fealings for each other again.. but now i dont know, she doesnt want to talk about romantic fealings and kind of treats me badly when i try to express affection or love.
Now she wants to do drugs with me and experiment with sex with other people which i cant do... i dont want to have sex with anyone i dont love.
hmm the problem here is that she was a big part of my life and still is... she really is/was my best friend. We were partners in crime, we can have a conversation that doesnt make sense and we could understand each other with just the vibes we give off... But now, shes just using my love for her to her advantage to get what she wants... i dont think she cares about me anymore..
Should i just try to forget her and move on though? Shes just causing me more problems.. we dont have love anymore, we have something wierd.. anyone have an experience like this? Any advice would be gratefull...
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I wouldnt suggest you walk away from this woman...I wouod suggest you RUN. She is on a completely different agenda than you are. I think you know this too. You love her still, she is not in that place anymore.
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Fluttery already said what I think... good luck
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Yeah, it sounds to me like you already know your decision. If you can't see yourself living like this with her for the next 50 yrs. then yeah, you need to "Run" as fluttery put it, from her. I'm sorry. I know it's hard, but you can be with someone who respects you, and ONLY wants to "be" with you.
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
You ever heard the saying, we teach people how to treat us? You let her treat you any old way, and any old shit is what your going to get. Move on, let her have her drugs and party, you go find a nice girl. If you tried, you could talk to alot of woman, and hopefully one day, find one that completes your sentences.
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i agree.. i know its difficult to move on when you are so in love with someone where its not reciprocal. i've found that as much as i want to maintain friendships with ex's, it never turns out good. too much history, and they know how to press your buttons.

i think for your sanity, and emotional safety, its best to just move on. take some "you" time.. re-evaluate what you love, like, and want in life. more women will always be out there. focus on you right now.
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Maybe easier said than done honey...but...ditch the bitch! Being used is NEVER nice...remember YOU dont deserve it! xx
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Leave her, walk run, crawl.... shes not good for you
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
If the type of relationship she wants to have with you is now the type you are comfortable with, and you's are not in love, then you have to make the best call for you. If you think you can be in a relationship like that, then stick with her since you's get along so well. But if you cant, then you know what you got to do.

I have never been in this situation as of yet. But I wouldnt be able to be with someone I didnt care about. Nor would I want to be with someone who wants to be with others as well. Maybe I will just be alone forever cus of this, but I would rather than to not be involved in something that I know is not me.
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Dude, you need to DTB.(Dump That Bitch)Sounds to me like she is just using you as a fuck buddy when you want more. This will be a never ending cycle for her, and you probably aren't the only one that she has done/is doing this to. Get away, don't talk to her anymore, and in time, you will meet a much better woman. Best of Luck to you.
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i agree with everything said here.

you are soooooooooooooo more worth it!!!!
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RUN DONT WALK! very hard to do. i can tell you from experience that you do not want to be with someone who does not share your same level of love, commitment, whatever. i am doing it right now and it sucks big hunkin b*lls. i cant get away from the crazy one right now.
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