This is a tough one, especially since I don't know you or anything about your relationship with Andy. However, it seems to be a point of stress for you and maybe even a little quilt. My advise is that if you don't love him then it's time to break it off. At first, you will feel worse because you think you broke his heart or you're not sure about being alone. But in time you will feel better.
Debbie

That is indeed a difficult question. You have to exam your feelings why you want to break it off. Is it because you want to try another romantic involvement or don't feel the relationship is good for you? In those cases, redefining the relationship seem like the right thing to do. Is it because you are not sure if you love him or just care deeply? Then I would stick it out and see what develops as long as he makes you happy and is a good person.

Is it Andy you want or are you just in love with being in love?
From what little I've seen of your posts I get the impression you are pretty needy in the love department but are looking for it in all the wrong places as the song goes.
Before you can get involved in a quality relationship where both people are equals and can share mature love you have to be emotionaly healthy and mature although to be quite honest dysfunctional people can find life time love and commitment if they find someone else whos dysfuntion fits theirs.
If you can't find that maturity you will most likely go from one bad relationship to another and always wonder what went wrong.

the problem is that i dont feel loved by him as he is emotional cool and doesnt usually display effection very much or tell me he loves me. also theres a big question mark about the future as we have been dating six years and he still isnt ready to take things to the next level. do i really seem to be that emotionally needy? probably because i dont feel loved much by anyone in my life right now, and havent felt that way in along time.

I don't see the emotionally needy part. It sounds like you are interested in finding a life partner and that is fine. Ask if this is man who you would choose to spend the rest of your life with. If so talk to him about your need to move the relationship to the next level. If you don't see your self with him or he is not at least receptive to marriage, it may be time to look elsewhere. If it come to this, it's not mean to break off the romantic part but just that you are at different places and have different needs. Six years is a long time. I am in a similar situation with a woman I love very much. We need to decide to get married soon or it is not good for either one of us.

tkyc, you don't see being with a guy for six years who isn't willing to advance the relationship or take it to the next level as being needy? I can't see any women who is serious about starting a family and getting on with her life putting up wiht that and he's emotionaly cool at the same time.
Tangerine, have you ever sat down and put down in black and white what you'd want to have in a relationship? I mean EVERYTHING right up to and including how you'd like to have your sex life go, to have or not to have children, where to live, who should work and how money should be spent and who would have responsibility for what in the home and other areas of importance? If not try it and then take a good hard look at Andy and what you've been experiencing with him. If you still think you want him after that exercise then be prepared for things to stay just as they are now, he has no reason to change.
On the other hand if you find he doesn't measure up to what you'd want in a husband/life partner and father of the children you may chose to have then get rid of him and start working on figuring out where to meet the kind of man who would fullfill your deepest dreams.
Regardless of how crappy our lives have been up to now we all have the right to look for something better and to go after it, you deserve a good man but make sure your the good women he also deserves.