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Hi all,
In my therapy, ive talked a bit about andy and she seems to be in agreement that i should probably leave andy. The problem is, I dont feel strong enough to and i feel like i always have to play the bad guy in the relationship department! I do care about andy, but not sure if its love or just that i care deeply for him. Im very confused as my last relationship was the same for me where i thought he was the one, and he didnt feel the same for me. Anyone lend some advice?
In my therapy, ive talked a bit about andy and she seems to be in agreement that i should probably leave andy. The problem is, I dont feel strong enough to and i feel like i always have to play the bad guy in the relationship department! I do care about andy, but not sure if its love or just that i care deeply for him. Im very confused as my last relationship was the same for me where i thought he was the one, and he didnt feel the same for me. Anyone lend some advice?
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From what little I've seen of your posts I get the impression you are pretty needy in the love department but are looking for it in all the wrong places as the song goes.
Before you can get involved in a quality relationship where both people are equals and can share mature love you have to be emotionaly healthy and mature although to be quite honest dysfunctional people can find life time love and commitment if they find someone else whos dysfuntion fits theirs.
If you can't find that maturity you will most likely go from one bad relationship to another and always wonder what went wrong.
Tangerine, have you ever sat down and put down in black and white what you'd want to have in a relationship? I mean EVERYTHING right up to and including how you'd like to have your sex life go, to have or not to have children, where to live, who should work and how money should be spent and who would have responsibility for what in the home and other areas of importance? If not try it and then take a good hard look at Andy and what you've been experiencing with him. If you still think you want him after that exercise then be prepared for things to stay just as they are now, he has no reason to change.
On the other hand if you find he doesn't measure up to what you'd want in a husband/life partner and father of the children you may chose to have then get rid of him and start working on figuring out where to meet the kind of man who would fullfill your deepest dreams.
Regardless of how crappy our lives have been up to now we all have the right to look for something better and to go after it, you deserve a good man but make sure your the good women he also deserves.