i think we're in a tough situation. i think it's really important to be able to voice yourself in desperation but it's also tough for everyone on the forums to go through this over and over again.

Most people deal with suicide threats/attempts a few times in their lives. Given the nature of this forum, we see it much more often than others.

I don't know where the balance is, just sharing that observation

I was close to the end yesterday and im sorry for what I put people through, but from the other side I know I upset by Dina's thread but Id rather it was there than wasn't.

I think if you are strong enough to get involved with a thread like this then you have to expect that the outcome may not always be the best. I do feel totally useless but im glad I was there because I feel like I have done something at least.

Nevertheless... I know there will be times when I just have to take a step back as I wont be able to handle getting involved with somethings. x

To be honest im having a bit of a cry now but I know myself thats just the worry. I can only hope to god I was fast enough and the police can intervene.

why i avoid any suicide posts. i learned the hard way.

not that i don't care...i just can't risk being manipulated like that. i can't upset myself to the point of a breakdown trying to discern whether it's real, a hoax, or even a cry for attention. any of those choices aren't good for me.

great if some CAN..i just can't. i'm MUCH better at supporting people who fight depression to win. :)

just my feelings about it. everyone needs to do what feels best for them. :)

I like what Mia shared, if you feeling vunerable or start feeling shaking after responding to a cry for help, bail, let someone else handle it. Don't read the thread. There are time when I will respond and time when I am not feeling so strong myself and may respond, but there are days when I know anything I say will be wrong.

Dina is offline now. It is out of our hands.

I was just wondering the same thing Wham. Ds does work when you are down or even coping with life. It works.

It is moments like this as well as many others that you just feel helpless and you cry. I woke up this morning feeling good and now I cry.

Perhaps it is simply a case of deal with what you feel you can, and we each have to make a choice.

I know everyone will feel a bit lower for not knowing what is happening to Dino, but that the price we pay for caring.

Yesterday Sleepy and I were both terrribly down and everyone here helped us turn it around, and I'd like to think that that gave everyone a lift.

Swings & roundabouts....

pixie...empathy is a wonderful thing.

but u must..for your own health...keep a measure of distance here.

whether u choose to support or BE supportive...u can't absorb it..if u do too much...u become of no help to anyone...nor receptive enuff to receive support. :)

Excellent point JaneDoe

I think you're right. If we are to get the most out of DS we must maintain a certain level of detachment.

Ya know Sam, that is a real good question. You know how down you were yesterday? It was so hard trying to find the words to try to make you feel better.
Some people need our strength to pull through this and others, it seems, get sick of hearing the same old thing "hang in there etc".
There really isnt much more we can do then to try to be there and hope that the message finally gets through to them.
When they leave I think we are all heart broken as we do not know what they have done..
I think DS helps alot of us and there are a few that we just cant help. It is such a devastating disease because most of our closet friends and family do not know exactly the pain we are going through and that we have a disease that they will never understand unless they aquite it somehow.. It is so hard to help someone who thinks they can not make it any longer..

It is difficult to deal with; no-one likes others to suffer, but we all have to be our top priorities, however harsh that may sound. We can only help others to a point and we have to look after ourselves as no-one else can.

i think that sometimes we get more involved than is in our best interests. but to not try to help would make me feel worse if something went wrong. it upsets me when things go bad and there is nothing i can do but at least i tried. i wasnt apart of this situation but i have been apart of many and it hasnt always worked out well, for some i have never known what happened, they just dissapeared.

I am finding this place to be overly toxic. I pop in to check my messages, make sure my friends are alright and really think about what I post, if I post.

I spend 99% of my energy on the other depression board and only 1% here because some days that is about all I can stand.

I have found that many people here (not pointing fingers) are overly negative, feel that regardless of anyone's opinion they have the right to cram their own down your throat and while I love a good debate now and again this is not a debate board.

I love many of the people here but because I also suffer from depression I have to make sure I am in a good mind set otherwise I can not help others.