how often do you call or talk to them?

I do that somewhat with friendships and sometimes relationships, its a hard habit to break

I had many friends at my old job. But, when you leave and time passes new faces show in the work place and new stresses. It is really hard to rely on friendships in the workplace. There are those you can laugh with and work with that are great but when you clock out they go to their life and so do you. In some cases it works other times it doesnt. Your neighbors sound mean. Sorry. Dont worry about them. Friends will come your way. I dont think that wanting someone to call or talk to is being clingy.

i find my self over protective of my friends try to fight there battles

I usually call them about 3 -4 times a week for about half hour unless I went to the vets in which cases, which means I wouldnt speak to them that night

You're not alone. I tend to be clingy myself -- have to fight it always. Because I bend over backwards the other way sometimes I come over as standoffish instead! I've been told (in therapy) that it comes from not fully understanding where people's boundaries are. But knowing that doesn't always make it easy to learn to see those boundaries, and I'm still not good at it. I just try to tread carefully when making friends....if you come up with a better method let me know! :))

I wish I could relate, but unfortunately, I've always been on the opposite end of things--too emotionally "independent." Actually, in retrospect, I think it was a subconsious pushing away of people. That changed pretty dang quick when my husband died. Now I think I have the proper balance. If the "clinginess" bothers you, it might be worth talking to your therapist or psychiatrist about. Not sure what, exactly, qualifies as being co-dependent, but maybe he/she can discuss it with you. Also, I think there's a codependency forum here on DS. Unfortunately, we have no way of knowing if the frequency of our contacts with someone bothers them. Everyone is an individual, with differing levels of desired alone time. I hope it all works out for you.

i think you need MORE friends.That way you can't be with one all the time and they won't be annoyed.

I'm not like that, I guess I'm too independant.

Truthfully, I just dont think many people know how to be friends. I mean, from my experiences in a new place, I find I try hard meet new people. I will invite them over, or sit there listening to them, but they usually dont come over or do they have time to listen when I need to talk.

It isnt me, it is how they are. I am used to having a lot of friends around when I was back home. So not having anyone to talk to, might make me seem like I need to make friends, but I dont try that hard.

I just think society has become kind of cold, for the most part, and it is more apt now-a-days to make fun of people when they first meet you, then make friends with people.

Thanks everyonr it means alot to kniw i aint the only 1

I think it depends on the type of friendship you have. I have a best friend, who when we don't talk everyday, it's weird. I have work friends who I talk to at work and occasionally outside, but once I have left the job, I know that I will give a hello if I see them, but other than that, I don't have much contact with them.

My ex said I was too needy. I broke up with him and now I am with a man just as needy as I am and we are happy.