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depression, social phobia, and guys issues *sigh*

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ok so right now my friend ricky in colorado wants me to move in with him in march, i live in florida btw. and i really want to move in with him, but my mom won't let me(i'm 21yrs old) she wants to keep her prefect little family together and when i tell i want to move away she freaks out and tells me every reason in the world to stay with her... of course none of those reasons benefits me... i tried leaving before(moving to ricky's) but she cried and cried until i gave in and came back, ricky was really pissed. and he still wants me to come back, and i want to but i express how my mom will get upset and that i just don't know how to deal with that and he gets all mad again and says stop think about her... but her feelings affect my feelings so much! and with him getting mad at me i can't handle it and cut the chats he tries to start with me... and then he blows up and says more mean things...

social phobia comes in to this by when i get overwhelmed when talking to someone: in person, over the phone, or online chats, i just walk away and its really pissing ricky off... i tell him i panic and that why i'm leaving and he just says its all my mom's fault and i just want to be a 40yr old woman whose only had sex once and some more stuff and.... grrr i told him that critizing my panic attacks doesn't help and he said well i have panic attacks too...

i'm just ao confused and depressed, i mean he is right my mom is behind most of my problems but it doesn't mean i'm stronge enough to surpass my problems and he wants me to just act like it doesn't exsist... that i have no problems...

he just gets mad so fast and i know its because he hates the way my mom treats me... i just don't know anymore.......................

*sigh* life sucks and then you die *sigh*
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ok you are an adult understand respect for mother but you are old enough to live own life just be prepared if does not work out have a back up plan
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problem is my emotions are torn to peice when my mom flips out and she knows it... she knows my buttons and all ricky ever says is just forget, let her cry it has nothing to do with you! he doesn't say i understand or its ok to feel upset but this is for the best he just gets super angry... and that's what scares me and makes me avoid him!
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Ricky was pissed at you, said mean things to you and undermined your feelings. Are you sure you want to live with Ricky? He doesn't sound very supportive.
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as well as what madashell and ellei said,I would try to get help for the social phobia.I can't praise cognitive behavioural therapy enough,in 3 months,maybe a bit more I was leaving the house on my own after 2.5 years of being too scared to even go in my back yard.Do it for you x
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If you let your mother push your buttons, it can go on for a lifetime.My mother's been gone for 15 years and sometimes someone else will push my buttons and react the same. You just need to make a decision and follow your instincts.

As Madashell says if things don't work out with him, have a back up plan. It is so imortant.

Do what you want. Don't do whatever for your mother or for your boyfriend. Do it for you.
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Strange...
Your mother is being abusive to you. Your mother is manipulating your emotions to bend you to her will. Whether or not you move in with Ricky, you need to get away from your mom.
What are your dreams? Travel? I can't stress enough how much you need to break free from your mother... maybe writing it down in a letter would be best, because that will give you time to say all you need to without her interupting and causing you distress.
Best of luck to you.
Jake
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