Your husband feels your lack of desire as a rejection of him - not as a symptom of your illness. You must reassure him that it isn't that you don't want to have sex with him, it's that you just don't want to have sex. He can't feel what you are feeling and he may think that having sex with you would be a comfort and positive influence in your life. You need to give your relationship some intimacy in order that you don't let your illness rob you of that. I am sympathetic to how you feel. Let your husband read some literature stating a real symptom of depression is lack of desire. Hope that helps.

Lack of desire is a huge part of depression. Also some meds to treat it will take the sex drive down to nothing. Concerned had some really good ideas. Just try to explain it to your hubby.

I don't know how you can convince him of how and why you feel this way, I do too. But I can tell you that he feels rejected when you tell him "no" and that's why he gets upset. It's a man thing, they feel rejected. Tell him that you're not rejecting him, you are just depressed. It may not work, but worth a try.

Ok, I feel like a moron because I didn't read Concerned's response until after I wrote that. Ok, I guess I agree with her. Good luck!

maybe you should just tell him how he can help....and get his sex back lol

Understand entirely how you feel, men who haven't had depression have no idea what it does to your libido, they just act like spoilt brats, sulking cause they can't get their end away, and whatever you say, they don't believe you anyway, i get 'you'll enjoy once you get going' - will i fuck!, sorry this probably hasn't helped at all, but its helped me.

maybe your other half thinks it's something they've done wrong. in some situations you need to be very open and do lots of explaining. My other half finds it hard to understand some aspects of my depression cos he doesn't suffer from it. remember that. take care, i'm here if you need to talk