Probably not really an answer to this question -- but how do you try and help a person reason that the guilt they feel is not justified and only deepens their depression. I've spoken to any number of people here who were victims of abuse, rape, etc., some when they were very small children -- situations they had no control over, and yet they've convinced themselves that the abuse was their own fault, that somehow they deserved it or didn't fight hard enough to stop it. How can you help someone realize they were the victim, not a participant, that they shouldn't be punishing themselves for being taken advantage of. I mean, I try, but most of the time the person answers, "but it WAS my fault," and no amount of explaining or talking seems to help.
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