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Ok so I have been really good friends with this guy for about a year now. He suffers from severe depression and well one day I decided to not only tell him about my depression but also tell him about my cutting. Well lets just say it didn't go so well. I told him about all of this about 2 months ago and I have not heard from him since. Its really starting to get to me that he has disapeared from my life like this. I have been getting updates on him from my other friends but I really want to hear it from him. I want to talk to him. I just don't know how much longer I can handle the silence from him.
deleted_user
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If you have tried phoning him why not try writing to him and telling him how this episode upsets you. He seems to maybe think that he is not strong enough to bear 2 persons problems.But if you let him know that you just want a bit of support now and then, he may come round. XXX Hope it works.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have tried phoning and texting and writting him. One of my friends told me that he says everything is fine between us. But if they were fine then he wouldn't be ignoring me. I just think I really screwed up by telling him. I didn't even tell him for my own support. I told him so that he would know that someone is close by that really does understand. I wish I could take it back.
Testycatlady
Testycatlady
I would tell him in a letter or on the phone bluntly, that if he is OK with you then he should tell you so to your face, and not ignore you. If he says that he is not OK with what you said, then ask him why he is not OK with it. This may sound strange, but it sounds like he wants to be the center of attention. He may figure that while he had depression, your guys friends gave him more attention. He may see your depression as competition for attention. That is just my theory. I may be wrong.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Let me share something small from the other side of the spectrum -

I had a really good friend that was a guy that I've been friends with for a long time. I finally came clean and told him about my depression and cutting and he was sweet and didn't dump me like a rock like the rest of my friends. Then one day he told me that he was depressed too and tried to kill himself the night before. We tried to have normal conversations but I coudln't stand it. I know it was horrible but I haven't responded to him since.

I guess it was the idea that someone already so close to me could possibly be going through part of what I was. I wanted someone to understand me, to love me for who I was, and to be able to talk about it without feeling weird. But when I finally found someone I was so scared of such an intimate, personal, deep, revealing relationship that I ran. Sharing in someone's secret pain and anguish really takes the relationship to a whole new level. Hope that helps
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