"Pluralitas non est ponenda sine necessitate"

Do you live in America? If so you can call your local NAMI group (look online for NAMI) and or local United Way and ask about support groups for people your age. They might have one going or know where you could loop into group. you will find amazing support as well as a reality check for yourself compared to how others are.

Carpe jugulum

Having gotten that of my chest, I guess you can always talk things out here, either on the boards or in private messages. There are a lot of people here who'll listen.

No I live in England. Not really one for support groups tbh, i prefer one to one stuff.

Go for the throat- don't add plurality without necessity... I guess they're the same. =D

Yeah I agree with the er...posts i can understand lol You could talk it out over the phone or on here with us if you're REALLY desperate heh heh!

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Yeah my friend said the same thing, I have friends who i can talk to you know? I need actual help. and i thought we'd get going with helping me this week but i'm not sure if thats what he plans to do or if I'm supposed to jsut go there and talk.

well it's only the second session. You don't know till you carry on for a bit.

I meant to ask how it went but I forgot!

I had similar feelings with my psychiatrist who, I remember, never actually told me what was wrong, he just sort of nodded and wrote me out a prescription. It was all very odd.

It might be worth having a think about what extra help you expect to get out of the visits and talk to him about it if you want to continue with him.

Yeah best thing to do is just talk about it with him I spose.
I'm kinda confused though. I mean I thought the point would be to help me see where i'm going wrong

What kind of help do you need? Do you mean medication? That can be helpful for many people. Bring it up to your counselor.

I was very frustrated at first. I understood that the person wasn't going to provide any quick fixes, but I was expecting a lot more concrete help than they give.

It took me a very long time to figure out that they not going to come right out and tell you anything. They are not suppose to and if they do, then that's a warning sign because then it borders on them imposing their will on you. They can provide feedback, guidance and support, but mostly they are there to help you sort things out for yourself. You ARE the one that is suppose to do most of the talking.

That's the difference with talking to friends and family. Close relationships are often 2 sided because they are invested in you just as much as you in them. It's too easy for others to give you quick advice that is something they want for you instead.

A professional counselor/psych is suppose to be objective and help you live the life that YOU want.

Yeah I understand that, that's why i was drawn to the profession to begin with ( I wanna become a counsellor one day) but he isnt really doing that. He's listening and being kind which is really nice and I think he's a nice guy but I dont know if we will ever start working on why I think these things.
OR (wow jsut had a possible epiphany) maybe he cant do mroe to help me coz I have already explained why I feel the way I do.
I know why I have low self esteem, I know why I'm paranoid, I know why I cut.
So he cant help me in that way. I need to have my thought patterns chnaged.
Oh fuck that means I need a psychiatrist and I cant afford that.

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