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Hi all, not posted much, mainly as I only get onto a computer a couple of days a week. Feeling very lonely at the moment, miss a lot of people in my life, and Christmas is looming ever nearer. I get the feeling this one is going to be awful,I lost my Grandfather at Christmas time, and he meant the world to me. Lots of guilt issues that rear their head at that time of year, even if more than 20 years have passed since he died. I used to throw myself into Xmas to block out the pain, but that wont be easy this year as I will almost certainly be alone.

If I am honest I am scared that it might tip me over again.
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i'm here if you need someone to listen
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il be alone 2. its not a nice feeling. but u CANT let it tip u over. just visualise next christmas bein better than this one. its jst a day - dont let it destroy u. xx
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i'm here for you. Where are your daughters going to be for Christmas?
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Thanks Guys. My girls will be with their mum, I will hopefully see them on Christmas morning for presents and hugs
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I find xmas a really hard time to deal with.
Everyone else seems so happy but i feel like i have to hide my sadness, i dont want to spoil it for everyone else after all.

How do you other guys deal with it?
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Richjn, please excuse me for hijacking your thread, i hope you think its relevant.
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Just a suggestion...

My brother is usually alone for the Holidays, so what he does is he invites his "orphan" friends over and everyone brings something to eat and they are all together for food, games and wine (of course). Maybe this will help...

(((Hugs)))
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bluering, nah that's fine. Besides, you have teeth...
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wow, i didn't realize it. this will be my 1st christmas alone. the last child is moving out this weekend. I geuss I'll have more compassion for my mom and all the years shes spent alone. Maybe I'll spend the day with her.
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Maybe volunteering could help, keeping yourself busy and all that. I have certainly considered it myself in the past, just never actually taken that final step.
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I know what you are feeling. I decided I would just volunteer to work on Christmas Day so those with small kids could be off. Be strong. You have come a long way and don't want to move backwards. Best wishes and we will be around to listen and keep you company.
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This might be a crappy suggestion but is there any volunteer work that will make you feel fulfilled and take your mind off of things? It can also provide alot of company. Before being dx with cancer I would do alot of things for the local womens shelter here. It was awsome. But I just dont have the energy anymore.
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Do you see a doctor for meds or take part in counselling. Maybe since you are so afraid you should see if there is anything that can be done to help you at this time of year. We are always here to listen and to support. Big shoulders to lean on. Sometimes we have to do all to ensure we make it besides talking. I throw myself into christmas. I miss those I lost but I try to honor them this time of year.
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