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For all you NEW lovers of Copsylou, its me she is talking about. I have knoen Copsy for a few months now from here and yes she HAS let me down but actually all of YOU have let her down. Dont you realise that Copsy has an alcohol dependancy problem and yet here you all are encouraging her to drink?? Oh yeh...her thread was great fun....isnt it great to watch people with alcohol problems laugh and have fun when they are drunk. But was Copsy actually laughing? Or was she on the phone crying to me instead. Copsy has made several promises to me that she will curb her drinking, in this past week she has been pissed every night...and driving her car when she was still drunk....are you all still laughing? How is she going to go to a works disciplinary tomorrow morning, she has to drive a few hundred miles home first and then attend a hearing....what state is that to be in. Slate me all you want....but its REAL friends who know how to behave and support eachother...not people who come on here stating if people are REAL friends they will understand her depression. People shouldnt make comments on things they know nothing about...and dare ANYONE say I havent been supportive of Copsy!!!!
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i'm sure you have been a great friend to her, noone intends to put you down :) We know how difficult it is to deal with someone depressed, she was just feeling so bad that I told her to let you know she loved you, not to put you down. hugs
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Totema..dont you get it??? This a depression site....we are ALL depressed, its alcohol causing Copsy's problems....
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Hey I'm sorry but I have replied to that thread and I DID NOT actually realise she had an alcohol dependency issue DON'T YOU DARE blame this on us!! I know full well that you have supported that girl she mentions you all the time and from what I can see I agree with rossiroo but this is just plain bashing and I won't be answerable to it. Thats all.
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I had no idea! I am ready to stand behind you a 100% on this. Bless you and you obviously love her. I think shes a doll and I would hate to know that shes in danger and drinking her life away. I recently had a friend who was only 30 pass away from alocohol. Her liver gave out on her. She left the hospital and got drunk, a week later she was found dead. God this breaks my heart!
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I agree abfab, copsy never mentionned anything about alcohol or her friend being on here. She just said she let someone down and she didnt know what to do. I suggested she told you how she felt and that she didnt mean it. I dated an alcoholic and I know this is a very long journey to travel, I hope copsy will be ok. I admire you for being here for Copsy despite your own problems, I would not have been able to do so.
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hey abfab - i was in the pub thing n i thought it was all a joke - i didnt realise she was actually drinkin or whatever. sorry 4 any upset etc caused, i do rly care abowt copsy.xx
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I am SO glad so many of you see the real issue here, helping Copsy, I thank you to those who realise the problem and want to help her. Its NOT bashing...
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I think it's great that you support your friend like that but being her friend doesn't give you the right to have a go at the community who, for a large part, may not be aware of copsy's alcohol dependency.
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I'm sorry i admire what you're trying to do but I will not personally be held accountable for something I did not know I have only just recently acquired a new friend in copsy and I am horrified at having this blamed on us. If I would have know that girl had alcohol dependency I would not have replied to the thread please get the facts before you start throwing around accusations like that because it is very very hurtful.
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i always suspected she had/has a prob w booze. I hope she knows i love her & i will be behind her 100%!!!
I know the signs of alcoholics, my 27 yo son is & theres nothing i can do for him or copsy until they admit & realize this on their own. I almost had my son realize it when he called me from jail couple yrs ago for DUI. I asked him if he now knows he has a prob & he said yes. After he was sobered up he says he can handle it. Well, mommy didnt run to the jail to bail him out. I told him it was all up to him but if & when hes ready for rehab, i would do all i can for him. THATS TOUGH LOVE!!!!!
it hurt me but its what i had to do.
I hope copsy knows i will be there for her too, whenever she needs but im not a drinker & ill share a glass of plain ole water w her.
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i pm u
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abfab, I admire what you are doing for copsy. She has a good friend in you. I have been talking to her all afternoon and she misses you already. I am aware of the drinking problem and I admit I asked her to pace herself,ect. I was afraid of the whole emotional end of things as well. All I can say is this. Maybe now that all is out in the open maybe this is the push she needed. I will not respond to the pub thread,ect. I have heard of the tough love approach but was afraid to do this to her.
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girlie472 I am very moved by your thread, I hope your son is better now.Maybe abfab is frustrated, I dont think she is bashing. After all she spent months supported Copsy even though she has huge troubles herself, I admire you for that abfab
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Jules.....you have no idea how much I hope you are right...this has to stop. Im not sure its tough love though as Im not sure who its tougher on!!
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It is tough on both of you. Tough on me, because I feel so bad right now. I was afraid to put it honestly. I love the girl to death. She is a riot. She needs help and maybe together we can help her. Can you talk to her now though? SHe is very sad without you. She knows where you stand with things now. There is no mistaking what you want. Just try to let her know that she isnt alone.
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