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Help me. I am married and suffer everyday with depression and fears and problems from the past. I had a verbally and sometimes physically abusive father as a child and now it seem to haunt me. I find myself trying to defendt myself or even protect myself when my husband and I fight because I am taken back to the abuse as a child. I know my husband would never intentionally hurt me but i still sometimes place him in the position of my father...I find myself thinking constantly of what my father did to me as a child and not being able to get over it. I want so badly to get over my problem but I dont know how to forget about my father and live my own life.
deleted_user
I wish I knew how but I'll listen if you wanna vent hunny x
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Have you had any profession help with this hun? Talked to a counsellor, gone to see your doc? Maybe even just join a support group so you can talk about things. It might help to get them off your mind a little.
deleted_user
Have you talked to a pro? Does talking about it make it worse or better? Can you think about other things and feel like your husband is not your father?
kiwicsi
Definitely go see a counsellor. Try your local church if you aren't sure of where to go or if money is an issue. You don't have to be religious or anything. It sounds as tho your issues are deep and need professional intervention. Hugz. xx
MOooser
Mate I have exactly the same issue. I ve been with my hubby 20 years and didnt even realise that I was relating stuff back to my abusive father. At the beginning I really tested hubby out to see if I could trust him. I am going to start doing some emotional work next year and am also going to attend a personal developement course for help with my self esteem issues. This has been accessed through my Community nurse as well as psych. I dont know what else to suggest babes xxx
deleted_user
your husband is a good? Even though your father was abusive you had the good sense to marry a good man. Now let him be your husband. By focusing your engery on your father you are taking 'away' from your loving husband.
deleted_user
Counseling is great. Also, there are some free meetings. If he was an alchoholic you can go to Adult Children of Alcohlic meetings or Codependent meetings. Those meetings are great when you have to tiptoe around other people and they are free. You can google those
MaRhianna
I agree with the others,you need professional help, especially counselling to help you through these memories.See your Dr first...good luck
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
