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I'm having a really hard time writing a condolence card to my friends who lost their son to suicide. I'm heartbroken for them, but can't find the right words to express my sorrow. Can anyone give me some ideas?
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Simple and short is best.
Be genuine.
Cards that offer hope are gentler than the ones dripping with sympathy.
What do you think would offer the most comfort? Telling them about how sad you are won't lift them up as much as acknowledging their pain and offering your shoulder.
If you are too wordy in a condolence card, it can be overwhelming and sometimes inadvertently inappropriate.
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ToddyJean, I lost a big brother to suicide when I was 17. Nothing anyone wrote or said did me much good although I appreciated that so many people cared. I suppose the ones that meant the most to me were those written to express the loss of a wonderful person rather than those meant to comfort me. If you knew and loved the victim well enough, just share that. lob, jreb
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im really sorry abowt their son. as someone who got alot of sympathy cards....erm i can give u a few phrases.
a favourite of mine that a friend wrote 2 me was "i know i cant say anything 2 take the pain away - but i wish more than anything that i could !" just tell them ur thinkin of them n ul be there 4 them etc xx
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When my friend's Dad died I just sent her a message saying "I'm always here if you need me" and she seemed to appreciate it. I just gave her the opportunity to share her loss with me, rather than force her to think about it.
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Kinda agree with guypaul.when i've been lost for words...i usually simply say...I love you very much.

The typical platitudes..though I'm sure may be heartfelt..seem empty to me.
"I'm sorry for your loss"
How many times will they hear that?
There's times when just letting people know you love them..is enough.
xoxo Di
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whew, that's a hard one

you recieved a lot of good suggestions

I agree, short and simple is best

I have lost two people to suicides, tho not a child, which has to absolutely the hardest thing to console
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