I have a problem with always comparing myself to other people and it does nothing but make me feel worse about myself, which I definitely don't need more of. I picked "Comparison is the thief of joy" as my profile pic cuz it so resonates with me and I try to say it to myself every day. I'm a 37 yr. old single mother who resides with her parents and grandparents as well. I have chronic depression, anxiety, and ocd and have struggled with these illnesses for a long ass time. I am unable to work, therefore I'm on disability. I've never come across anyone in my situation, but in all honesty I haven't really made many attempts to go to support groups. When I had gone, which was so long ago, I even compared myself to people who also had mental illness. "Oh, well this person is bipolar. At least they're happy for awhile.", I would say to myself. I know that logically it may make no sense, but I'm just being honest with how I think. I'm on fb and at times I feel like it's not good for me to be on it as I compare my life to theirs(or what they share on fb that is). I don't regret joining fb as I've reconnected with some friends I used to be close with and have just lost touch with over the yrs. who are now back in my life. I love my friends(I openly will say that I have a very small group of friends, but I'd rather have one true friend than a bunch of fake ones.), but I can't help but compare my life to theirs. I wasn't one of those young girls who grew up dreaming about her wedding day. I actually, for some strange reason, never could envision my life past the age of 20. I was convinced I was going to die young. That obviously didn't happen. At my age most people have careers, their own homes, a spouse, and kids.(Please note that I said most. I know this is not true for all people.) So many people tell me to stop comparing myself to others, but it's so very hard for me not to. I'm new to this site. A friend of mine suggested I check it out, so here I am. So my question to anyone reading this is do you also compare yourself to others often? I know it's normal to do so to an extent, but I feel I'm beyond that.
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