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I'm going to do it. I'm going to tell my parents everything. I'm going to tell them about Natalie.
I'm going to start with my Dad and let him know I kept in contact with her over the past 9 months. I'm going to tell him I can't bear to keep it a secret anymore. I'm going to tell him that keeping this secret has destroyed me from the inside-out. I'm going to tell him it has destroyed my relationship with him, my mother, and all my family members. I'm going to tell him we have to at least tell my mother, if no one else.
Then I'm going to tell them both about the DNA test. I'm going to tell them I flew thousands of miles without there knowledge to see her and her family. I'm going to tell them that trip to New Orleans over the summer wasn't just to see friends, it was to see them for the second time.
I'm going to beg for their forgiveness for my lies and deceit. I'm going to cry for the pain I have caused them. I'm going to ask them to please try and understand why I have done all that I have done. And I'm going to pray that my father's words the first time I revealed that I found Natalie will not come true if I revealed her: This will destroy our family. GOD I pray I will not be the destruction to my family.
I hope I will be able to do this and overcome the turmoil I will suffer from it. My anxiety is in full blown mode every time I think about this. Knowing that I must do this, only makes my anxiety worse...I'm crying now just thinking about it. God how will I be able to face them?
Please, my friends, I ask for your support and strength during this time of preparation. It may be at the maximum 3 weeks from now when I must tell them, but it may come as soon as this weekend. I just don't know. I just know I need all the help I can get.
I'm going to start with my Dad and let him know I kept in contact with her over the past 9 months. I'm going to tell him I can't bear to keep it a secret anymore. I'm going to tell him that keeping this secret has destroyed me from the inside-out. I'm going to tell him it has destroyed my relationship with him, my mother, and all my family members. I'm going to tell him we have to at least tell my mother, if no one else.
Then I'm going to tell them both about the DNA test. I'm going to tell them I flew thousands of miles without there knowledge to see her and her family. I'm going to tell them that trip to New Orleans over the summer wasn't just to see friends, it was to see them for the second time.
I'm going to beg for their forgiveness for my lies and deceit. I'm going to cry for the pain I have caused them. I'm going to ask them to please try and understand why I have done all that I have done. And I'm going to pray that my father's words the first time I revealed that I found Natalie will not come true if I revealed her: This will destroy our family. GOD I pray I will not be the destruction to my family.
I hope I will be able to do this and overcome the turmoil I will suffer from it. My anxiety is in full blown mode every time I think about this. Knowing that I must do this, only makes my anxiety worse...I'm crying now just thinking about it. God how will I be able to face them?
Please, my friends, I ask for your support and strength during this time of preparation. It may be at the maximum 3 weeks from now when I must tell them, but it may come as soon as this weekend. I just don't know. I just know I need all the help I can get.
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i will be here
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i'll be here for ya
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Praying you will have the strength to do what you need to do.
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I don't know what is going on, but if you need support, we are here for you.
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Thanks you guys. This is all that I ask for. Nothing more, nothing less.
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how did it go, can't find new post
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Went you your profile to see if it would help me say sensible to you, but I still can't figure out what's going on, so I'll just say good luck and remember, we're here for you if you need to talk. :)
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I hope it goes well for you. Family secrets are some of the most damaging things to get into the open. Good luck.
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I am here also.
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Thanks everyone. I will keep everyone posted once I know when I will tell my Dad. I'm having to make a decision in the next few days to either go ahead and do it this weekend, or wait until my Thanksgiving break, which will be the next time I go home after this weekend. God my anxiety is kicking in so bad. Every time I think about this my brain starts running at a mile a minute and I feel like I am going to cry. The stress of this is really going to get to me. I just know it.
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support is here for you. Come here anytime you need us. Good luck.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
