I was thinking about something my old boss said to me once. He described how many people become incarcerated, at least partially, due to being under the influence of drugs or alcohol, or both, at the time of their crime. (Had they not been under the influence, they may very well have decided to NOT rob that bank, etc) What was sad to him, is that the next day the person would wake up from their haze as their normal self. But, they were stuck with the consequences of their choices. I've been thinking about this lately as it perhaps relates to us here on DS. I'm thinking that we can be just as "intoxicated" by our own negative emotions, and that making decisions when we are "not in our right mind," can have the same kinds of "next day consequences" for us. (regret, guilt, etc.) Might it be better, when we are tempted to defend ourself in the public forum, to take it to a PM instead? Or simply report abuse when it is heaped upon us? It seems to me that when we take a dispute public, it tends to stir up arguing, name calling, and general trouble, which is a consequence that hurts everyone in both the short run, and the long run. Before giving in to the temptation to post something that is likely to offend or hurt someone, might we just ask ourselves; "is this likely to hurt another, or offend them? Is it likely to be taken the wrong way, and result in another "DS war." If we find ourself saying "yes" to these kinds of questions, we do have a choice in what we post, and how we respond to someone else. I'm just throwing some thoughts out there that might be helpful in lending peacefullness to the boards. What are your thoughts and opinions?
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