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OK, so I've been trying to figure out how to get this out for the last several days and while sometimes my words come easily often in times of stress they stay trapped inside my head. So please, bare with me.
On dealing with triggers I have noticed that some people get upset when the word CAUTION isn't put up in the subject line. While I can understand this to some degree there also comes a point in everyone's life where we must learn to deal with our triggers. We are big girls and boys now and the world will not revolve around us and the triggers that are out there in everyday life. Let me give you a few examples of what I mean.
For a couple of days I stayed away from the Kinky Sex Thread. I was raped as a young teen (not how I wanted my first time to be!) and then again several times by a very abusive ex. I was afraid that seeing posts might bring back memories. My wonderful husband (FyreJunkee) lightly joked with me and I had to stop and think-I am safe now. I am with a man who loves me and would never hurt me in the same ways that the other two men hurt me. I decided that since I knew things could be heated up in our bedroom that I would give the thread a look. After looking through page after page I saw friends who were able to blow off some steam and laugh-it helped me because I felt as though I made a few new friends and was able to laugh as well as help my "bedroom" life.
I see posts where people talk about children, what about the childless person either never having been able to have a child, having their child die at a young age or some other tragic episode, what about the person who sees someone mention a spouse or significant other and the other person is going through a divorce, or they had their spouse die...or whatever. Those could be triggers for them. Same with people of eating disorders, often for myself in times of emotional distress I go to one end of the spectrum or the other, meaning I either eat nothing or I eat everything in sight. I have seen posts where people talk about having a drink, I can't drink any alcohol on my meds, posts where people mention smoking, I quit smoking almost 4 years ago...the list goes on and on and on and not just for me but for everyone. We all have our triggers and we all have to deal with them on some level.
So maybe you understand more about triggers that if we exclude something that "might" trigger someone else or if we post up "caution" we will either A have no posts at all or B every post will be listed with CAUTION in it.
Now, on to probably my biggest complaint thus far in my 3 weeks I have been here. How in the world can some people make themselves feel better by purposefully slamming others? I'm not talking about indirect, I'm talking about flat out calling people names or judging them in ANY way.
I am a Christian-I worship God. But guess what? It doesn't matter to me if you worship my God or any other God or even no God at all, for all I care you could worship your pet rock and it would make not one bit of difference to me. I'm not here to preach to anyone, I'm here to help myself gain some understanding on my issues, to have support and to give support. The same goes for any other thing that gets slammed around here. I'm not gay but it doesn't matter to me if you are, why would it? Does it mean if some is/is not a Christian, Gay, black, white or green person that they can't have or offer support?!?!
I understand that people offend people from time to time (and Lord knows how many people I will piss of with this post but whatever...) what I don't understand is WHY we can't have some decent level of compassion for each other because we are all dealing with the same issue-DEPRESSION! I know there are trolls out there that like to stir the pot and they will always be here as they are on every other chatroom.
OK, I'm done with my rant, I hope I didn't upset anyone and I want EVERYONE to know that I didn't direct this at any one person-it's just a general observation.
I will also say Thanks to those people who step up and reach out to others in need, I have noticed that A LOT and I didn't want it to go unmentioned.
On dealing with triggers I have noticed that some people get upset when the word CAUTION isn't put up in the subject line. While I can understand this to some degree there also comes a point in everyone's life where we must learn to deal with our triggers. We are big girls and boys now and the world will not revolve around us and the triggers that are out there in everyday life. Let me give you a few examples of what I mean.
For a couple of days I stayed away from the Kinky Sex Thread. I was raped as a young teen (not how I wanted my first time to be!) and then again several times by a very abusive ex. I was afraid that seeing posts might bring back memories. My wonderful husband (FyreJunkee) lightly joked with me and I had to stop and think-I am safe now. I am with a man who loves me and would never hurt me in the same ways that the other two men hurt me. I decided that since I knew things could be heated up in our bedroom that I would give the thread a look. After looking through page after page I saw friends who were able to blow off some steam and laugh-it helped me because I felt as though I made a few new friends and was able to laugh as well as help my "bedroom" life.
I see posts where people talk about children, what about the childless person either never having been able to have a child, having their child die at a young age or some other tragic episode, what about the person who sees someone mention a spouse or significant other and the other person is going through a divorce, or they had their spouse die...or whatever. Those could be triggers for them. Same with people of eating disorders, often for myself in times of emotional distress I go to one end of the spectrum or the other, meaning I either eat nothing or I eat everything in sight. I have seen posts where people talk about having a drink, I can't drink any alcohol on my meds, posts where people mention smoking, I quit smoking almost 4 years ago...the list goes on and on and on and not just for me but for everyone. We all have our triggers and we all have to deal with them on some level.
So maybe you understand more about triggers that if we exclude something that "might" trigger someone else or if we post up "caution" we will either A have no posts at all or B every post will be listed with CAUTION in it.
Now, on to probably my biggest complaint thus far in my 3 weeks I have been here. How in the world can some people make themselves feel better by purposefully slamming others? I'm not talking about indirect, I'm talking about flat out calling people names or judging them in ANY way.
I am a Christian-I worship God. But guess what? It doesn't matter to me if you worship my God or any other God or even no God at all, for all I care you could worship your pet rock and it would make not one bit of difference to me. I'm not here to preach to anyone, I'm here to help myself gain some understanding on my issues, to have support and to give support. The same goes for any other thing that gets slammed around here. I'm not gay but it doesn't matter to me if you are, why would it? Does it mean if some is/is not a Christian, Gay, black, white or green person that they can't have or offer support?!?!
I understand that people offend people from time to time (and Lord knows how many people I will piss of with this post but whatever...) what I don't understand is WHY we can't have some decent level of compassion for each other because we are all dealing with the same issue-DEPRESSION! I know there are trolls out there that like to stir the pot and they will always be here as they are on every other chatroom.
OK, I'm done with my rant, I hope I didn't upset anyone and I want EVERYONE to know that I didn't direct this at any one person-it's just a general observation.
I will also say Thanks to those people who step up and reach out to others in need, I have noticed that A LOT and I didn't want it to go unmentioned.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
with the other posts your right you have to be able to talk about what you want without worrying about triggering someone we can not know all the triggers
i hope that im making sense, hmmm not sure that i am
Alcoholics have to learn to live with some triggers and avoid others. For instance, it's silly to think they can never walk into a grocery store past the beer displays and wine racks. However, walking into a bar is not expected or advised in early recovery.