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Eudaimonia 12/10/2007

I want to ask a question about sexual abuse. Its someing that I have alays wondered about. I want to know if an incident that happened to me os considered sexual abuse. But, for me to ask, I would have to be graphic, and I dont know if that is ok or not. I dont wish to offend anyone. And the reason why I would want o post it as a topic instead of journaling it is so that as many people could give there opinion as possible cause I truly am not sure. Do I have permission?

deleted_user 12/10/2007

Go for it

deleted_user 12/10/2007

sure

deleted_user 12/10/2007

I've been sexually abused and I've been called a liar because I've been able to talk so openly about it... I don't understand that, people deal in different ways.

I'd go for it, and those who don't wish to read after reading your initial question can close the topic.

deleted_user 12/10/2007

Ask away; I'll share first. In 9th grade a male frien asked me over for the night. (a weekend night) In the middle of the night I get woken up in the middle of the night by an unwanted oral sex act on his part. he threatened to bite it off if I resisted. Pretty traumatic. (I didn't know the meaning of the word traumatic in 9th grade).

deleted_user 12/10/2007

go ahead but try to be general in areas not pertinent to question to limit offensiveness

deleted_user 12/10/2007

Ask away. Just remember that just cause you may have been abused does NOT make you damaged.

deleted_user 12/10/2007

please feel free to express yourself here. It would be a real shame to bottle up something inside..

deleted_user 12/10/2007

Basically ANY sexual act that is not plainly consensual is abuse. But I know how difficult it is to accept. My family often vacationed with quasi cousins in another state and when I was about 12 I was wakened in the middle of the night by someone standing next to the bed. I wasnt sure who it was or what to do, there was a 7 year old girl sleeping next to me and her 2 year old brother asleep in a crib in the corner of the room. I decided it was best to keep quiet, I didnt want to wake the little girl and scare her. Needless to say she was awake, she warned me about her family member the following day. A clear case of rape, right? Ha. Not to me and not for many, many years, as much as two decades passed before I was able to say I was sexually assaulted/abused. And it wasnt until this past year that I told the authorities and that was accidental.

Eudaimonia 12/10/2007

thanks, i posted it. sometimes i think i just overreact about it, but it always bothers me, and i want to deal with it and move on

deleted_user 12/10/2007

I'm glad you made the decision to post it, always helps to get it out. You could also post it in the Sexual Abuse community here at DS.

I also thought one sexual encounter that happened to me when I was eight might have been sexual abuse, so I posted there. I'm still not sure though.

Take care,
Chili

deleted_user 12/10/2007

Nothing is an over-reaction. The mind is so complex that the slightest thing can affect us in a great way.

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