Sounds like you are at the bottom of that barrel. I have been there many times hon. It seems I climb half way up and it hits me again. It just seems people have turned on you during this stage but they havent, I promise you. They may not know what to say to comfort you. I know things can be hard but we just have to take it day by day and pray to God to help us through and give us the strength. Instead of looking at things negatively try seeing the positive things..That always seem to help me in my worst time of need.

Caramello,

I'm not sure why people turn on you when you're down -- maybe they're not exactly "turning on you," but they may not know what to say or do to help you feel better, so they back off. I've had that happen to me... with my family and friends. It's hard for people sometimes to understand what you're going through. Try to give them the benefit of the doubt.

As for where people go wrong to get these disorders? I don't think there's any one place and oftentimes it's not any fault of our own. Things happen to us and pile upon us and it ends up, in the long wrong, taking us to a place we never intended to go.

Are you getting any kind of help for your depression? I notice in your profile that you've got thyroid issues and say you can't have children, but you list your depression as "post partum?" I'm a little confused there. Post Partum depression can be treated (as can other kinds of depression). What steps are you taking at this point?

I'm glad you wrote here, though. I've gotten a lot of good support -- mostly just by reading all the messages... people do really care.

yea sorry about that it was my mistake i dont have post - depression .... i have depression from my thyroid my mood swing tend to sky high at times i guess thank you lovely ladies where i come from we say aroha mai ...

some people don't know what to do. some people don't want to get involved. my husband was the worst about not supporting me...until he realized what was really going on. then he started reading everything he could get his hands on about depression. now he is right there with me, up or down. Most people just don't know what to do.

Most of the time I feel so all alone when I am depressed. My closest relative is my sister and she tells me, "Just keep going, don't lay stagnant and do nothing, because it is only going to get worst." This is true but sometimes it is hard to get the get up and go and I feel like I am alone with that. Sometimes people fear that they are losing control because they turn it around to their own fear or insecurities because they feel what they say is not going to mean a damn thing. I believe that if someone can just understand and talk about it with me, it can be half of the battle to making you feel better.

i don't know why we end up with these disorders, but it really isn't fair, in my opinion. it kills me to see some really rotten people breeze through life when i am dying in this black hole i'm stuck in. i just don't know about life sometimes.

i hope you start feeling better, and that those people who have turned against you will understand what a huge mistake they are making. hang in there, hun. i know it's often so hard to do, but you've got to keep on going and fight this. you can make it through!

Dear one, you are not alone in the world with this. I too find it hard some days to cope with the least little thing. Your family is probably trying to understand but it's so hard for them to stand by and watch depression. And as you know, when we're depressed, don't forget we have a negative outlook on the world and people around us. Depression doesn't always allow us to see things as they really are. Please don't give up, you will get better with the right care. Keep trying new things until it works, please.

cara, i think its not so much they are turning on you, but that your depression leaves them not knowing how to act around you. My councilor told me that depression for those who dont suffer it is something that makes alot of people nervous as they dont know what to do when your having your downtimes, to bring you back up again. I hope that you can find the support you need here!