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Boundaries

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It seems like a common term today - I have seen it in journals, posts, hugs...

So, what are some of the ways you all set healthy boundaries? What about getting the signal from others that there's a "stop sign" ahead - do any of you have problems with that?
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That was the reason for my journal post today, Star. I do set boundaries for myself, but not just in the way I mentioned in my journal. I know my limits in most things. I know when I need more sleep, so I set boundaries for how much caffeine I consume. I know when physical pain is taking over, so I set boundaries on how much exertion I can take.
Setting emotional boundaries is much harder to control, hence my reason for speaking out this morning. I wasn't just referring to over-involving oneself with another's problems either. I was also referring to becoming too emotionally attached to someone of the opposite sex, when the desired goal is unreachable. To a person in a depressed state, that realization is devastating.
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yeah, have seen that a lot. Also people who won't turn off the cell phone, or tell their boss NO - in fact, don't say no to anything - *sigh*
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I try to set boundries for myself. Theres been a few times I stepped over but hopefully I've learned.
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I think that's what makes us stronger, grammie. To learn from our mistakes and become a better person because of them.
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My problem is with the "hide in the bushes" people who won't tell you when they have an issue but prefer to stand around and gossip and snicker at you behind your back but make sure you can hear it.
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One of the greatest things I'm learning here is how to set up healthy emotional boundries! Many of us never learned or have self esteem issues and don't think we are worth it......I call it "running on emotional empty" and I am guilty of it often! Puts us in a funk that is hard to get out of. That said--The FRIENDS/FAMILY I have made here are hands down--the most genuine and REAL folks I have ever known. It takes a village--thanks for your journal reminder jana!
HUGS!
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